The ego spectrum
In my explorations at the pool, I have found three broad categories of 'interactive types':
open and humble
tentative and egotistic
Most seem to fall into category two. The deceptive majority appears congenial and cooperative but in the end – tyrannical idiots at the mercy of their petty egos.. (Remember, many of my rants will be Sheldon-style circa Big Bang Theory – now that I'm watching the show on a regular basis.) ;)~ Ego is a merciless taskmaster.. It's insatiable and merciless.. When your 'comfort zone' involves ego, you are in for a wild and tumultuous ride..
The second majority, blatant egotism, is apparent from a distance.. You don't need to hold a sign “Bully” for people to see this immediately.. Bullies show their ware visibly like bling. ;)~ Or super loud rap music like I heard at the pool yesterday: fu_k! fu_k! fu_k! was the chorus.. I told my visiting mother: “All generations are entitled to their 'music'” (my late father would say rap is nothing more than monotonous droning – NOT music) and “At least the 'song' is easy to learn – you only need to know one word.” :P
Actually, the 'kids' playing that particular music are cool neighbors of mine and so I was trying to make a case to mother they should be allowed to dominate the pool with loud profane rap music. ;) Seriously, they're NOT bullies.. They deserve a chance to 'dominate the pool' – nobody else was there anyways.. Two families were just leaving.. :P (Actually, the two families had been there for a while and also using the nearby swing-sets.. The fact my neighbors came and started blaring profane rap is 'neither here nor there' – they're good kids!) Deal with it. :P
The final minority is category one: open and humble. Unfortunately, the most desirable category is the fractional minority. :( It's so very sad.. So few people are genuinely open and humble.. It's a precarious way of life.. When you offer your honest open hearts, you're completely wide-open and vulnerable.. But.. It's the only way to interact genuinely.. The other categories provide a kind of ego-armor that has the convenient illusion of protection.. Note: illusion of protection.
Whenever we use lies/deception/ego to shield our true-hearts, we're being ingenuine/dishonest. We can never hope to grow solid real enduring relationships when we approach people this way.. So.. Our society is a failure from the 'get go'.. The only genuine way to go is category one.
Btw, I've coined two words related to Sheldon: sheldonize and sheldonitis. To sheldonize something is like fubaring something – but fubaring to the ultimate idiotic maximum. Sheldonitis is when you have any quality that resembles the insanely irritating character, Sheldon. It can happen when you are exposed to such an individual or perhaps were born (heaven forbid) that way.. :P
This article is dedicated to the wonderfully open and humble family I met at the pool yesterday who will remain anonymous 'for their protection'. :P