I have forgiven Esther L. Wiggins
Over the years I communicated with the concerned public about my poor daughter's abandonment through blogs, YouTube videos, social networks and petitions. Esther Wiggins took my daughter from me, even though I told her the complete truth in my testimony. Esther Wiggins violated the scared position to which the people of Virginia entrusted to her. She was wrong, cruel, foolish and careless with the life of an innocent little girl - my daughter.
I have forgiven my daughter's father for lying to Esther Wiggins. I forgive him because I understand that he suffers from an anti-social personality disorder. I forgive him because I understand that there is no cure for his mental condition.
Forgiving Esther Wiggins has been much harder for me because I hold her to standards - she should have known better. She should have known my ex was lying. She should have recognized her own hatred and bias. She should have known have know he abandoned my daughter for nearly six years. She should have believed me when I said my ex could not care for my daughter. She should have know that he continued to lie to her (as evidenced in each fraudulent "vacation" notice he sent her) because he knew she would believe it.
I have a lot to forgive Esther Wiggins for - her arrogance, stupidity and cruel heart facilitated the abandonment, rewarded a sociopath and made it clear to me that I can NEVER turn to her to help me in the future. Forgiving Esther Wiggins is indeed very...very challenging.
Forgiving her has been difficult because I know - in her arrogant mind, she sincerely believes after 15 years that she did the right thing.
Forgiving Esther Wiggins for the immoral, cruelty she inflicts upon those who are honest with her, those who are good parents, and those like myself, who are moral beings is a great challenge.
WHAT LEAD ME TO FORGIVENESS?
My wonderful husband lead me to forgiveness. Since the inception of our relationship, myhusband who has a Masters in cognitive therapy and PhD in neuroscience, immediately identified my PTSD. The PTSD is a direct result of the trial, horror of watching my child taken, and triple horror watching helplessly as she is shipped off and abandoned for years. All contact cut off by her father.
One evening, after waking up in the middle of the night from one of my nightmares, crying about my daughter fifteen years later - my husband told me that I had to forgive. He said to me, "Naomi you must forgive your ex, yourself and Esther Wiggins. You must forgive them for the sake of our children and our family."
I knew that forgiving my daughter's father is easy. Any human who could do, without blinking an eye, the things he has done is truly sick. I do not feel angry at him at all, and have not harbored anger at him for many years.
I had to forgive myself: I was foolish and naive. I had many opportunities to flee with my daughter- to kidnap her. I respected the law and I was wrong for it. I must forgive myself.
Forgiving Esther Wiggins - now THAT is a challenge.
My husband is right. I forgive her because forgiveness is the right thing to do for myself, my children, my husband and most importantly for my poor little girl who endured years of loneliness, pain and sadness due entirely to Esther Wiggins incompetence.
Esther Wiggins is not admonished for her crime against my daughter. She is not atoned. What she did is wrong, will forever more be morally wrong, forever cruel and sick. Esther Wiggins has no compassion for victims - and she will forever be a bad person with an ugly heart. I must reconcile myself with whatever caused Esther Wiggins to be as cruel and hateful as she is.
All of my online content will remain public because the public has the right to know, and to protect itself by my advice. My advice for all parents going into her courtroom will never change:
THERE ARE NO COURT REPORTERS, DO NOT SET FOOT IN HER COURTROOM WITHOUT HIRING A COURT REPORTER
IF YOUR LAWYER TELLS YOU THAT COURT REPORTERS ARE NOT NECESSARY IN ESTHER WIGGINS COURT ROOM - FIRE YOUR LAWYER AND BRING A COMPLAINT TO THE BAR
DO NOT.....I REPEAT....DO NOT ENTER HER COURT ROOM WITHOUT FIRST HIRING A COURT REPORTER
Sadly, many do not follow my advice and suffer the consequences anyway. That fact aside, I forgive Esther Wiggins. I forgive her hate, I forgive her arrogance, I forgive her ignorance and I forgive her for all the years of suffering I endured with the knowledge that I do not have any family court to turn to when my child was abandoned by her father - the very man Esther Wiggins had given sole custody.
I forgive Esther Wiggins.
The only other piece of advice I can give to others Wiggins has victimized, is to publish your story. But try to forgive, and do this for yourself and most importantly for your family. It is the right thing to do.