Men Need Sex Too

But likely not for the reasons you're thinking.. If you're a woman reading this, I think your eyes will be opened. If you're a man reading this, perhaps as well .. To simplify for the uninitiated, I will tell a few stories which will illustrate things nicely.

Story 1: the beautiful attorney in Oakland, CA.
Some years ago, I met a beautiful attorney in Oakland, California. To see and talk to - very impressive in several ways. I met her because I worked in the same building as a legal courier. I enjoyed getting out and about - learning where everything was at in the Bay Area .. She made the 'mistake' of smiling at me one lunch time - and I dared to speak with her after I realized it was me she was smiling at .. Of course she was attached and unavailable at that time .. Of course I myself was in a tortuous relationship with an insecure girl from my home state of Michigan. Of course I saw this beautiful attorney as a possible escape hatch from my misery .. But she saw things differently. It must have been from her experiences but she saw men as needing conquest: to conquer a woman - this is how she saw me and other men. :(  It was very demeaning and unjust in my case. Just her smile was liberating but .. You know - men want/need more.

Men need sex because of intimacy: this allows them to be physically close to women they adore. I don't know how to put it more simply. All other reasons are secondary: need for orgasm (need for ecstasy and release),.. One other reason I will list as primary which is illustrated by..

Story 2: the incredibly beautiful 4H lady at an edible plants conference in northern Michigan.
I was 16; she was perhaps 20 with maximum 24. She was the most beautiful woman at the conference. I had no real sexual experiences by that time - the only one previous was when I was seven with my eight year old girlfriend but that is another story.. ;) Anyways, back to the conference. I don't know .. There was something between us .. Some unexplainable attraction .. I was a young man and she was a mature woman (to me) .. In a way, we consummated our attraction on a small bus while riding to our respective homes in northern Michigan. Not that we had sex .. But I believe we would have - had we had a private opportunity. I should say make love rather than the other. I think between us - it would have been that exactly .. She would have been my teacher and I her .. And our bond would have endured until now - as it has in a way already .. You see, had we made love - I would have gained self confidence more than anything else. As it was - how many years did it take for me to learn self-confidence? Without arrogance or ego? She 'did me a favor' as it was by showing her attraction for me and allowing me to show mine for her on that bus .. We had some intimacy and I will leave it at that. That experience and her love has never left me. She is one of the reasons I can face the world each day.

As you can see, sex for men is much deeper than conquest or orgasm .. It totally depends on who you're having sex with and when it is in your life .. Sometimes it's simple 'brutish' attraction .. Two people get together and magic happens .. And you're both amazed we have this chance to live and love .. Sex in its best form is truly a mystical experience .. Every time I am amazed and sometimes spiritually .. I have tried to describe those experiences but .. In doing so, somehow it lessens them .. So I have learned it is best to leave those experiences for 'god and heaven'.

Sex is an exceedingly simple, yet complex, and beautiful thing. I cannot share with you my most intimate moments because as I say above - somehow - in the telling, the story lessens the meaning of the thing. Suffice it to say that some ladies have shared moments with me in unexpected ways which would amaze any student of human behavior.

There is an old Italian movie called The Man Who Loved Women .. And no, it is not about me .. I do adore women .. But for me, it is mostly about the eyes and smile. The smile is in the eyes (or behind them?) and the smile can light up your life. There was a Thai girl who smiled at me some years ago .. And I could not resist to make a beautiful boy with that girl. This is what she gets for smiling at me ;)

For a woman knows - when she smiles at a man - this can lead to conversation .. And conversation can lead to merging minds .. And merging minds can lead to commingling body parts .. And commingling body parts can lead to merging spirits .. Of course many times, the order of events is all 'messed up' and sometimes - missing essential parts in a story .. I pray you have at least one complete love-story in your life - regardless of the order of events.

To love and be loved - this is the highest honor of being human .. I thank God for my chance.