O' Valentine! It's thou Art

The imagination and realization are the two major aspects of our life.  We swim and get aside from the river of fancy.  This fancy is also the root of several inventions to actualization.  But the term ‘love’ is still a magic and an enigma for the both generations: old and new, where this fancy opens that threshold of paradise.  The old generation believes that it is as spirit which goes through several bodies to make the hearts pure and kind.  Contrary, the new generation contemplates it as sharing emotions and caring relations.  We can analyze it as positive energy inside of humans.  And this energy can reveal the mystery behind love. 

The world famous love stories i.e. Adam & Eve, Romeo & Juliet, Heer & Ranjha, etc. are the various inspirations of love for current generation.  A Valentine i.e. a love-letter in itself expresses the ultimate feel that dwells in heart as a fountain of emotions.  With the passage of time, the way of love-making is changing consequently but the desire that's always heavenly.   But the instinct 'love' is always loved.  To understand, the theme and philosophy behind love, we will have to explore the sphere of love beyond sexual desires.

It is actually a flow of energy that releases from one side because of decency of someone.  In real sense, it should contain affection, welfare but no expectations or response in return from other side.  It may be oxymoron in the writings that how can it possible without expectation or response in love.  But when the expectations interfere in the response of love, there is a flow of negative energy in place of positive energy, in absence of expectations.  It actually, irritates the human psyche and gives only pain.  In this reference several questions arise in the minds of readers.  In simple way love is giving not receiving.  When we expect for that response or don’t get assumed response; we feel bad or pain in heart.  And this is the inception of breaking hearts and drilling emotions.  But it is only our error where we create this one sided ‘fancy of love’.  So when we apply this philosophy of giving without expecting, there would be no complaint or pain of deception.  It is our imagination which floats according to us, without touching next person.  So what you bestow that you receive. 

            The psychology behind the feel of love somehow unfolds the plight of love.  It is ‘emotional intelligence’ which makes attention of new lovers.  This emotional intelligence plays a great role in the context of love.  It is obviously clear that the emotional intelligent people can maintain their love-relation for long life in comparison of extra imaginative people.  The control over emotions when releasing the energy is mandatory.  It is up to that person who is in love; how much energy has to flow or how much time has to spend.  The psycho-analysis process also proves that emotionally intelligent people are happier than extra imaginative people.  It doesn’t mean that these people are not intelligent but sometimes, they are unable to assimilate the fancy with the reality.  When we start liking someone, feel good and start releasing that energy in the sense of love.  It is always without his or her permission.  And thus, it becomes an automatic process.  As a gift of God, it must be celebrated everywhere.

            I expect this article will carry a positive impression in the minds of readers.  In fact, it will bring a new way of respecting emotions and relations.  It is not that one has to go through psychology and philosophy of love before falling in love or making relationship; it is just precaution for caring relations.  Even, there is no need of calculations; just giving your heart; if someone really believes in you, he or she’ll automatically release that flow of energy in true sense.  Love is never in numbers; it is always loved.  Hence, it is a belief that brings the springs of energies together. Perchance, when we will really understand the next person, respect that one, and then one day it is possible heaven on earth.  So, when you’ll start loving someone, must relate this philosophy and get a package of contentment for your happy and loving life.  So, enjoy your Valentine's Day as an anti-hate day; have meet, sms, date, warm-hug, etc.     Concluding the theme of love, Shakespeare's famous line expresses: "O' Valentine! It's thou art, which ultimately changed my heart."

(The writer is a Ph.D. Scholar in English from HNB Garhwal University, Uttarakhand, India)