Sexism is an ideology that attaches value to individuals on the basis of gender. It is a gender based hierarchy, that ascribes the highest status to males, and the lowest status to females. The enhanced status given to males, encourages men to incorporate their gender status, into their personal identity. When this effect takes hold, the victim is in the beginning stages of becoming a sexist.
A sexist is discomforted when the behavior, achievement, possessions, appearance or experiences of women, contradict the the idea of masculine supremacy.
In effect, sexism requires a diminishment of the identity of women, in order to support the false identity of men as, better than, women.
Aspects of the life of women, are gender contradictions, that are a threat to the personal identity of the sexist, producing anxiety, that is generally manifested by rage, and behavior that humiliates, coerces, demeans, isolates, punishes, or otherwise diminishes the object, thereby inserting a correction into the life of the object, in order to prop up and reinforce the idea of masculine supremacy.
In effect, sexism is not a reaction to inferiority, rather, it is a reaction to gender contradictions that challenge the self-image of the sexist.
Copyright Hargrove Jones 2002
Woman at board meeting: A woman contributes an important idea during a corporate board meeting, and there is a prolonged silence. Eventually, one of the men compliments her on her hair.
The woman's professional insights are a contradiction to her subordinate status so, it is ignored, and the image is corrected by interjecting the things that women are supposed to be about, like their appearance.
Family Ties episode: A female kindergarten instructor is in a heated disagreement with Alex when he abruptly orders her to get him a drink. She did.
Oftentimes the hidden identity of oppressed people is in agreement with their oppressor. Consequently, under the right circumstances, an oppressing person can call on the object to assume a traditional role, in this case, service, and the oppressed person will comply. Consequently, the image of the woman as standing up to the man is corrected when she submits to return to the role of service.