Waitress Sandwich: Does Ted Kennedy Leave a Legacy of Misogyny?

by Tina Kells | August 26, 2009 at 01:47 pm
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Being the trend watcher that I am a curious thing popped up in Google that caught my eye. On a day dominated by Ted Kennedy related trending terms I looked desperately for something, anything, non-Kennedy related. I thought I found it with waitress sandwich. Sadly, I was wrong.

Waitress sandwich is exactly what it sounds like, the act of two people (usually men) pressing their bodies up against a waitress (clearly a woman as indicated by the suffix "ess"). Tradition has it that the waitress sandwich does not let up until the girl in question wiggles free and runs off screaming.

Now as gross as waitress sandwich sounds, as much of a violation as it is, when I looked into it I found exactly what I expected... except for one small Kennedy related detail.

According to a very detailed, and apparently well researched, albeit clearly biased comment on another site, the origins of waitress sandwich are traced to Ted Kennedy and another male politician, Senator Chris Dodd. As the comment expresses, the cute little "game" of waitress sandwich was invented by these guys in their "jolly youth."

What kind of legacy does Ted Kennedy leave behind now that he has passed? If you share the opinion of this commenter, his is a legacy of misogyny. When I searched waitress sandwich this comment was the top of the list and it makes a very good point about the way Ted Kennedy the man lived and breathed. 

It can't just be a cosmic irony that Ted Kennedy died on the eve of Women's Equality Day, putting one half of that infamous waitress sandwich to rest. But Senator Chris Dodd, since you're still alive, I feel compelled to tell you that what you once jovially referred to as a waitress sandwich is known as sexual harassment in the 21st century.

Ted Kennedy was a major supporter of women's rights.  If you had sex with as many women as Ted, you'd believe in abortion too.

He did call the police 10 hours after killing Mary Joe Kopechne.   He didn't wait 11 hours, that's a major character plus.  Most drunk drivers who leave dead bodies go to prison, for life.  But Ted Kennedy is a monument to what money can do.  His father got rich smuggling alcohol to America during prohibition.  Kennedy, of course, was a major consumer of alcohol, often a little tipsy on airline flights, or at Washington restaurants.   Who can forget the "Waitress Sandwich"?   A menu item invented by Ted Kennedy and friend Sen. Chris Dodd.  Together, in public, at the La Brasserie restaturant they sandwiched a waitress, until she went screaming out of the dining area.  It was a real scream, better than Howard Dean.

We missed the wise comments and questions of Ted Kennedy during the Clarence Thomas hearings.  He just sat there letting others complain about sexual harassment.

Then we had the 1991 barhopping incident where Ted and nephew William Kennedy Smith got drunk, had sex, and a little rape problem occurred.  Ted knows how to be a good role model for his nephew.

The Owl Club was a club kicked off harvard, for gender discrimination.  Ted remained a member, even though it did not allow females as members.  Ted later did criticize republican supreme court nominees for belonging to similar social clubs.  

Ted Kennedy is great at education.  He hired another student to take a Spanish exam for him at Harvard.  He's an inspiration to all, that you can pass exams, even if you know nothing about the subject.

Ted got suspended from Harvard and went into the military, where he earned the rank of Private.    He rose no higher.   This gives inspiration to all veterans who never were promoted.

The waitress sandwich analysis/expose is but one of many comments about Ted Kennedy at that forum (follow link in the quote to see the rest) but in that stream of comments, one thing is clear. Even among those who liked, or even loved him, nobody has - yet - defended him against the charges of a life philosophy of misogyny. But the woman-hating (disguised in his mind I am sure as "woman loving") antics of Ted Kennedy have been analyzed at other sites too.

One particularly pointed piece asks the question "What was the Relationship Between Ted Kennedy and Mary Jo Kopechne?" The Chappaquiddick Incident is perhaps a defining moment in the life of Ted Kennedy. It's the day, some say, that he let a woman die while he sought the protection of lawyers. While it was surely a terrible event for him, there are claims that it blatantly illustrates the value he placed on a woman's life... a woman who was campaigning for his brother Robert.

It seems that the problems that Ted Kennedy had could be traced back to Joe Kennedy.

Joe Kennedy was a "not nice guy." He believed that women were either to be used or to be kept pregnant.

He groomed his boys for public office and the girls for social work. However, because one began to show signs of promiscuity (Rosemary) he had her placed in a mental institution.

This was Ted Kennedy's father, his role model and, he lived up to it.

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eastvanray

Alas....Ted will be sadly missed.........at the BAR!!!

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Roy C

The womanizing is legendary. I first heard about it from my father as an eight year old kid in Philly. My father was a democrat city committeeman. It all goes back to his experience as the child of his father, Joe Kennedy.

Essentially, Joe Kennedy, the father of the whole clan, was the head of what some would deem the Irish mafia in the US. He provided financing for Giancana in Chicago during Prohibition and was one of the main market manipulators of the New York Stock Exchange.  His pro-Hitler sentiments got him canned from being ambassador to the Court of St James (British Court).

He was a major producer in Hollywood and once had both his wife and Gloria Swanson, his mistress and the top star of the day,on the boat at the same time for vacation. It is not exactly a wonder how the Kennedy men became compulsive womanizers.

Joe Kennedy wanted his son, Joseph, to become president, something right out of "The Godfather", but Joe Jr. was killed in WWII flying a special mission to blow up a huge cannon built into the side of a mountain.

JFK and Robert, in particular, made real contributions to the US. Ted was nowhere near as significant a politician.

JFK fought the Mafia with Robert's lead, even though the Mafia were essentially his father's friends and the one who had given him the presidency in 1960 by stuffing the ballot boxes in Chicago with the votes of the dead, throwing Illinois to Kennedy, and the election as well.

JFK fought US Steel's monopoly, cut taxes and produced more tax revenue, called for the moon landing, but started the War in Vietnam, as well. The whole Cuban thing was a disaster that has been reinterpreted so as to  benefit JFK's image.

What we did was take away our missiles in Turkey and the Russkies took away their missiles in Cuba. They did not back down.

Robert's effective prosecution of the Mafia, especially his deportation of the head of the New Orleans mafia, got JFK killed.

Ted Kennedy did a good  job at being the uncle and patriarch of the Kennedy Clan. I give him that, but he was not a man to treat women well. His cheating on his wife was incessant.

He had his marriage to his wife annulled, making all his kids bastards, technically, and reducing his marriage to his wife to something that never really happened, an annulment, not a divorce.

That the Vatican would give him this annulment is a sign of its two-faced approach to divorce, denying it, even with good reason to women such as my grandmother who was abused, while allowing it for the high and mighty.

No one has mentioned this annulment in the news at all, even though all his kids were by his first wife.  Where is her name even  mentioned? 

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caj1

Interesting summary, Roy C. of the Kennedy men. I can just add that Joan, the first wife of Ted Kennedy, made an appearance at Eunice Kennedy Shriver's funeral.  She was wearing all-white clothes.  I thought it was great she was invited to Eunice Shriver's funeral.  She was much a part of Ted K.'s early life, and the mother of all of his children.

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caj1

As far as the title of this story, yuck, I don't like it and don't know the answer...

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jazzyzazzy

A though you said you were not going to write about Ted K. Glad you did,! your bang on.

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Rhonda J Mangus

Interesting Opinion piece, Tina. Thanks for posting.


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The_Cynic

I make no excuses for Ted Kennedy - yet he didn't either. He did say that his demons were his and he had to live with them, and personally I think that can be the worst punishment of all.

I know about his love for the Irish 'freedom fight' - I saw many of my fellow citizens die at the hands of those who called themselves such - I detested him for that, but I do try to find out about the man and where his ideas came from.

I read about the struggle that his mother had with Irish 'discrimination' both at the hands of the British and the US, his father wasn't the best of fathers, and again, I am not trying to make excuses though it seems I am. I am, on the other hand, prepared to see what makes a person the person they are.

Though Kennedy did what he did re; the NI Troubles he was also involved in the peace process itself.

He wasn't perfect, then who is? I don't think he was a misogynist either, just a stupid bloke who got caught up in the times as was.

There are many who are the same, both genders are complicit in that.

If we are to put a 21st century view on everything then we we will be judged, in the future as being barbaric in our time.History is a tool we can use to better ourselves, but if we are not wanting to be judged then it is not up to us to do the judging. We do not know what it was like to be the black man who lived in Alabama in the 40s, 50s and 60s - what we can do is look at those times as abhorrent and that whomever that those times do not exist to the degree they did then.

Rosa Parks, MLK, JFK, RFK and a million other people allowed us to have the freedom of thought we now have to see those times as unjust. Is Ted Kennedy worse for that? I don't believe so.

Ted Kennedy sought his own redemption in doing what he thought was right - but he also had his own past to deal with. What do we take from that? Is it a matter we take what he was in his time as a complete idiot - or do we look at him as the purveyor of what he knew to be right? Personally I think we have to look at him in the middle of all that - as a human who wasn't perfect and made the mistakes that some make more than others.

Whether you believe in Biblical text or not, it is still apt: "Thee who art without sin, cast thy the first stone as thee without sin will see the gates of heaven afore ye that hath; lo yon that I see hath thee not sin; go now yond and flee afore thou art judged; cast thee not"

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ecgberht

"I make no excuses for Ted Kennedy - yet he didn't either. He did say that his demons were his and he had to live with them, and personally I think that can be the worst punishment of all." No, it isn't just he that had to "live" with them.  In one case, someone had to die because of them.  MANY had to live with his demons and THAT is the problem.  The moral judgment that "nobody's perfect" and "He who is without sin cast the first stone", make me sick in this case.  Unfortunately most who quote that, leave out the following words of Jesus to the harlot ... "go thou and sin no more".  Kennedy was scum.  He never asked forgiveness of those he wronged.  He just paid them off. 

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marianmo

i am saddened by this opinion....i personally believe that we celebrate a persons life...not degrade it a few hours after his/her death....freedom of speech is a wondrous thing...but being sensitive to the feelings of others is also important...Mr. Kennedy was a flawed man....he made mistakes...but he did a lot of good things as well....he was an excellent parliamentarian...an advocate for peace, for justice for people of all colours and a supporter of health care for all....it is a shame to see such an opinion expressed. so soon after his death.......i am sad and disheartened at now public..for allowing such a piece to remain on site..sorry...but that's my opinion

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eastvanray

He only did good things if you are a supporter of socialism and income redistribution.  I am not therefore in my opinion he was not a "good man".

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douginchi

Oh it was ONLY a "mistake" to leave a young woman under water for 10 hours whild sneaking off to sober up, and then have the "family" keep you oout of prison for it eh?  Nice "mistake".

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generaldecay

It's a shame to read this. I know that Kennedy came from a different generation, when it was acceptable to treat women in such a way but this story has undoubtedly lessened my respect for him.

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J2B

much of this and more was revealed by the "Gemstone File" in early 1970's! Pre internet days when stuff was printed and circulated, pity I didn't keep a copy, very juicy reading, especially the "real history of the Kennedy's!

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Barry Artiste

Seems Dead Kennedys make the news more than when they were alive. Once a Horndog, always a Horndog.

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bridget

Sex offenders often cover up their addiction to overpowering others by living a life of public service (clergy, teachers, etc.)  Research with adjudicated sex offenders in treatment confirms this.  Far too often we are taken in by the benefits of their service and overlook or minimize the pain and suffering such a disease causes.  I personally know someone who was raped by Ted Kennedy and no number of good deeds will undo that crime or the others he has committed.

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Pete_

No mention of Schwarzenegger's misogynistic exploits? At least those can be confirmed by real people and not from republican bullshit fake news sites like this.

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eastvanray

Pete,

You seem to have a computer and access to the Internet so why don't you use it?  The sandwich incident was covered by TONS of newspaper media of the day.  Duh!

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