The Dream Solution
Most problems have solutions, and some are better than others. While some believe that the solution to gender war is to impose a mean-spirited matriarchy that teaches women to behave in the worst way that they can and for men to have to indulge their every whimsy - and others believe that the solution to gender war is to impose a Christian or Muslim patriarchy that does the same thing with genders reversed - I have in mind a better solution than either of the preceding.
The Western women want independence; my solution will allow them this independence. The Western men want women who will be good to them; my solution will allow for that as well. In addition, this solution will benefit any number of people outside Western countries, even as it will diminish the gender conflict and result in a subsiding of the gender war.
What is this dream solution, you ask? It is as follows:
A large-scale intercultural flux for intermarriage, allowing men from Western countries to get together with women from the Third World.
For a woman from the Third World, living with a Western man is a dream come true. The man in the West is likely to treat her much better than would a man at home. In addition, the woman would be in a much better country, where she would have more rights and more prosperity than she would expect to have at home. This is the case even if she got together with a man who in the West is regarded as patriarchial or misogynistic. However partiarchial and misogynistic such a man is in the eyes of the Western feminists, he is much less so than most men in Afghanistan, Congo or Brazil.
For a man from the West, getting together with a woman from the Third World would be likewise desirable. Such a woman would be grateful to him and would be willing to treat him right, which most feminist-minded Western women are dead set against doing even if they are partnered with the best of men. I have known any number of relationships between Western men and Asian women, and for the most part these relationships have been good ones. Whereas any number of relationships I've known between Western men and Western women have been horrible, with some situations featuring most wrongdoing by the man and other situations featuring most wrongdoing by the woman.
Finally, the Western feminist women would win out as well. They would be free from the men that they hate and would be able to be as independent as they want to be. The men would not hit on them, would not bother them, would not "objectify" them, would not tell them how to live their lives, would not interfere with their careers or their creativity. They would be free as birds and have no patriarchial tyrant controlling their behavior. The men would be occupied with Third World women; and that would leave the Western women free from their unwanted attentions.
In addition to these obvious benefits, this solution also carries an array of social benefits. Probably the biggest one is that it would defuse the gender war. The Western men and the Western women would not be intimately in each others' lives, which means that they would have less to fight about. The Western men would be with Third World women who have more of a sense of perspective and are less likely to cry wolf or howl bloody murder over trifles; and the Western women would be free to live their lives as they want to live them. This situation would defuse the gender conflict, resulting in its eventual abatement.
What other social benefits does this solution carry? Probably the most immediate one is that it would create positive relationships on the part of the parties involved, where they will treat one another far better than they expect to be treated at home. But a still greater one is that it will incentivize good treatment of the opposite gender, as the members of the gender will have a choice not to put up with those who would treat them in ugly ways. A large-scale flux will make winners of both men and women who are willing to be good to their partners. Meanwhile those who do not wish to be good to the other gender will be rendered uncompetitive, resulting in them either having to go without or in them having to change their ways.
Right now, both men and women are under incentive to be the worst thing that they can be. The men's movement, the Mosque and the men who think that they are real men and that the feminism-influenced men aren't, teach men to be horrible to women; and the Dworkin feminists teach women to be horrible to men. In both cases, the victims of that are not the people who are responsible for either political correctness or misogyny. The victims of the first are innocent women all around the world who are outside the reach of feminism; and the victims of the second are noble-minded liberal men who are closest to the centers of feminism. Meanwhile wrongdoers on both sides are quite comfortable and get to claim that their being comfortable makes them better than the rest of their respective genders. This results in reward for, and incentivization of, ugly behavior, and punishment of, and disincentivization of, good will and good conduct. And incentivization of something always results in more of it going around.
This means that there need to be mechanisms to reverse these perverse sets of incentives. This means that there need to be mechanisms to incentivize good will and good conduct. In the real world, people will make choices in their exchanges based on what they stand to gain in the exchange; and in relationships, people when free will make choices based on how they stand to be treated in the relationship. This will make winners of both men and women who are willing to be good to the other gender, as they will magnetize the attention of the other gender. And it will make losers of both men and women who are not willing to be good to the other gender, as they stand to be avoided by the other gender.
And that will incentivize the society in rightful direction, creating a mechanism to support good conduct by men and women toward one another and to punish wrongful conduct by men and women toward one another -
Resulting, once again, in more rightful behavior by both men and women toward one another, and, consequently, better lives both for women and for men.