Feminism and Family
There are some people who think that the family is paramount, and that the man should be in control of the family regardless of his behavior; and there are others who think that family is the problem as such.
I have a better idea. Family should be important; and fathers should be taught and prevailed upon to act like gentlemen.
Most people will want to have families, and most people will want to have children. The job of the feminist in such situations is to make this a positive experience for the women. The women who don't want to have children and families should be free not to have children and families. However these women will never be the majority.
It so happens however that these women can have a positive role, and that is as follows: Assisting other women. With a class of tough women who know how to stand up to abusers, domestic violence will be less of a problem. And instead of holding the family women in contempt, these feminists should be out there in the front lines helping other women have a better experience of family life.
The problem is neither family nor fatherhood as such. The problem is the brutal and abusive practices in which many men elect to engage. If men who have goodwill toward women are lured away from family life, the family women have nowhere to go to except men who are overtly brutal or misogynistic. And that is hardly any kind of social progress.
The feminist who actually wants to improve women's lot in society will therefore not be spending her time and energy teaching other women to avoid men or teaching men to avoid beautiful women. Instead she will be assisting other women in face of brutal and abusive practices by their husbands and boyfriends. That way, all women stand to benefit. The family women would have a better life as wives and mothers, and the non-family women will be doing something that actually benefits women for real.
The solution to abuse in the family unit is not doing away with the family unit. It is confronting abusive practices and teaching the partners - both men and women - better ways to run a family. Most women will want to have children. And if feminism is to actually benefit the world's women, then this is the direction that it needs to take.