Gender Debate: Hitler and Stalin

There are two sides of town. On one side of town, violent and abusive men are horrible to women who are beautiful, warm and compassionate and insist on treating them like dirt. On the other side of town, nasty and mean-spirited women are ugly to men who have goodwill toward women and likewise insist on treating them like dirt. In both cases we are seeing a great injustice. And it is an injustice that is solvable without involving expenditures of government funds or military action.

All that needs to be done to fix both injustices is to create a large-scale flux between men and women on both sides of town. That way, people will choose their partners based on how their partners are willing to treat them. And this will go a long way toward solving both injustices. It will reward the willingness, both by men and by women, to be good to their partners, with good relationships. And it will also create an incentive upon the offenders in both genders to change their ways.

Both the men who see women as inferior or evil, and the women who see men as destructive, love as a patriarchial racket and beauty as a patriarchial institution that destroys women's self-esteem, are wrong - horribly wrong. One does not claim 50% of humanity to be evil and uses that to be horrible to 50% of humanity. Both the men who do that and the women who do that are grossly in the wrong. When faced with Hitler and Stalin fighting each other, one does not take either side. One does what he needs to do to disempower both sides.

Wrongful ideas can be overcome in two different ways. One is through persuasion. The other is by making those ideas expensive to maintain. Both the woman-hating beliefs and the man-hating beliefs are evil. Fortunately there is a way to make these beliefs expensive to hold. And that way is through people, operating from sane considerations of how their partners would treat them, creating relationships in which they treat the partners well and are treated well by their partners - and create a real-world incentive upon both the misandrists and the misogynists to change their ways.

Really, both sides in this debate are disgusting. On one side we see men teaching other men to be violent, abusive and oppressive to women; on the other side we see women teaching other women to be complete harpies and to be vicious both to men and to women who aren't harpies themselves. Do you really want to side with either set of scoundrels? I think not. I think that the sane person will want to be good to his or her partner; and if he or she does not want to be good to the partner then he or she should go without one. One does not side with Hitler, and one does not side with Stalin. One goes against both despots and sides with liberty.

The real war is not between men and women. It is between men and women who are willing to be good to their partners and men and women who are not. The real solution to this problem is better relationships between men and women. And this is something that can be incentivized by allowing men who are willing to be good to women to be with women who are willing to be good to men, while leaving both the harpies and the misogynists without their punching bags.

On both sides of town we see a major wrong being committed. Fortunately there are ways to overcome both wrongs. A sizeable intercultural flux for intermarriage will reward the better elements in both genders. And it will also break the tyranny of both the misogynists and the misandrists and create real-world reason for both sets of evildoers to change their ways.