Gender War Parasites
The only viable solution to the gender war is goodwill between men and women, resulting in better man-woman relationships. Goodwill is required for all genuine interaction, and any interaction shorn of goodwill has no chance of being fulfilling or deep. Whereas men and women who have goodwill toward one another stand to create positive relationships; which, when practiced upon a great enough scale, stands to render the gender war obsolete.
The people who promote ill will toward the other gender - both women and men - are described best as parasites. They sow ugliness all around so that they get to dictate how everyone else in their gender behaves. Whether it be the Dworkin feminists or the fathers' movement, these parasites teach the rest of their gender ill will, nastiness, violence and abusive behavior. And that hurts everyone except these parasites themselves.
As a result of these parasites on both sides, both the men and the women learn to be on their worst behavior and to treat their partners - or people in the communities in which they operate - like trash. In most cases the people who get the worst of it are the ones who are least at fault for the real problems. The women in Muslim and right-wing Christian communities have done the least to cause feminist nastiness toward men, and the men in feminism-influenced societies have done the least to cause oppression and subjugation of women. Yet it is these people that get the worst of it, when they themselves are the least at fault.
While many men rail against "sluts," these do not begin to be at fault for the real problems. The sexually active women are, for the most part, positively predisposed to men. The women who are truly at fault aren't the sexually promiscuous ones, but rather the harpies.
The harpies that teach other women to be horrible to men and prevail upon them until they are.
With men, we also see the wrong people get scapegoated. While a lot of women rail against "perverts," these likewise are not at fault for abuse and oppression of women. The real wrongdoers among men are the men who commit real violence against women and demand that women put up with it - men who claim that women are evil or inferior or sluts or hos or the reason for the world's suffering - men who think that being male means that they should knock the woman around - men who define masculinity as being about dominating women and prevail upon other men to do as themselves or not be seen as real men.
In both cases, we see absolute parasites. And these parasites do everything in their power to destroy good man-woman relationships and then feed on everyone's misery to subvert them to their evil causes.
The result of all this parasitical behavior has been predictable. Asinine behavior is being incentivized on the part of both men and women, whereas goodwill and goodness on the parts of both is being persecuted. The society becomes incentivized toward the worst possible outcome, and the worst qualities get rewarded while the good qualities get attacked.
There are any number of possible solutions to this problem; but before the problem can be solved it has to be seen. And the problem is: Malevolent entities among both men and women claim to speak for their gender - without the rest of their gender having voted for them to do so - and influence everyone else in their gender to be the worst thing that they can possibly be. Which means that the first part of the solution is to see this malfeasance on both sides of the gender conflict and become less likely to buy into the lies of either set of parasites.
There are other complementary solutions as well. One is for men from cultures where men are good to women but women are bad to men to get together with women from cultures where women are good to men but men are bad to women. This will result in people of goodwill getting rewarded with good relationships, while creating an incentive upon the offending gender in each society to improve their practices or else see the other gender leave in large numbers to be with people who would be better to them. The result will be positive relationships on the part of the people of goodwill, as well as a competitive pressure on everyone else to likewise operate with goodwill toward their partners.
Another is to practice appropriate incentivization in appropriate situations. The man who describes his former partner as evil, crazy, a slut, a ho or anything along the same line deserves to lose. So does the woman who portrays her ex-partner as a wimp or a loser. Nastiness should be disincentivized, and good will should be incentivized. This is the case in all situations involving conflict between ex-partners.
Ultimately it makes no sense to be either for or against either men or women. There will always be men, and there will always be women, and among both some will act rightfully and others will not. It makes sense to be for good women and good men. It makes sense to be for loving man-woman relationships. It makes sense to be for the goodwill that makes such things possible, and to be against the ill will that stands in their way.
It is toward that outcome that men and women of good will ought to strive.