Gender Wars to Gender Harmony

I've made, and I continue to make, the case that the gender wars teach both the men and the women to be the worst thing that they can be. There is a reason for this stance.

A good man will want to be good to the women in his life, and a good woman will want to be good to the men in hers. A man who does not want to be good to women in his life is a bad man, and a woman who does not want to be good to men in her life is a bad woman. And what we see in the gender wars is the worst elements in each gender claiming to speak for 50 % of humanity without the 50% of humanity having voted for them to do so.

And this collossal usurpation of power, by the worst elements in each gender, keeps coming in exceptionally nasty ways at those men and women who are better than them.

A woman who is hateful to men enough to avoid men is not at the risk of domestic violence; the woman who likes men enough to be with men is. And a man from a conservative misogynistic culture is not at the risk of being mistreated or falsely accused by women; a man from a liberal feminist-influenced culture is. Not only are the gender wars fought by the worst elements in each gender, but they come squarely down on the shoulders of the better elements in each gender. Which means that they create an incentive for both the men and the women to be the very worst thing that they can be, while maliciously attacking the men and the women who would not be the very worst thing that they can be.

Most women are better than Andrea Dworkin and Catherine McKinnon. Most men are better than Michael Murphy, Glenn Sachs, Ash Patil, Barry Williams or the Fatherhood Foundation. What we see in each case is a collossal usurpation of power by the worst elements in each gender and a training of the other people in the gender to be as terrible as them.

A correct answer to each set of usurpers and degenerators of humanity is vocal protest from the men - and the women - against these usurpers and degenerators. One such voice is Dr. Michael Flood in Australia. As an Australian man, he could have easily taken advantage of Australia's culture of brutality toward women to also treat women like trash. Instead he has dedicated his life's work to helping Australian women against men who would mistreat them. That is real goodness. It is more goodness than I've got. And the world would be a much better place if more men look up to Dr. Flood than they do to the likes of Michael Murphy, Glenn Sachs, Ash Patil, Barry Williams or the Fatherhood Foundation.

The same is the case with women. The more the better women make a name for themselves, the more women will look up to them rather than to the likes of Andrea Dworkin and Catherine McKinnon. And the less the worst elements in each gender are heeded, the greater the chance of there being a livable world.

There needs to be an incentive for men to be good to women. There also needs to be an incentive for women to be good to men. Both men and women deserve better leadership: A leadership that teaches them to get along with each other instead of ripping each others' throats. Goodness by men toward women - and goodness by women toward men - must be incentivized; and ugliness on the part of each side must be dis-incentivized and confronted. This will lead to men being better to women, and to women being better to men. The immediate result is that both men and women will benefit. 

And the more the better elements in each gender speak up and become leaders, and the more the better practices are incentivized, the better will be the lot of both men and women and the better will be the world.