It Feels Awful To Be Judged…

I enoyed the story in the link.  Thank you for sharing .

I had initially wondered what this had to do with ADHD apart from your acting without thinking (lap top) and perhaps lack of tact(words chosen regarding the door) SORRY but I wouldn't have done either!!

We all do things without thinking sometimes as we expect people to empathise with our intentions.  We may be so sure of ourselves that we don't allways stop to think.

I think they way you felt is exactly how my son and I feel when we realise we've upset someone.

My boy has ADHD and I am being assessed for it too.  I know that his teachers think I am to blame.  I also know that his actions are often percieved to be worse than his peers as though they are waiting for him to do something wrong and then jump on him.

I am only just learning myself to just accept his appologies when he truly can't just take back what he has done.  Sometimes appologies HAVE to be enough.  He feels got at every where he goes.

If he get's cross while out and I have to stop to calm him people can watch and tut and shake their heads.  It makes me mad as it is not like he swears or anything, it is just a difficulty regulating his emotions.

I was brought up with the attitude of 'what will people think?!' so have always tried hard to please people around me.  This is impossible with ADHD.  I think soooo hard about what I do and say that I am really reserved.  I have lost track of the amount of times I have just been being myself and then suddenly I find that I said/did something stupid. 

Or when I have forgoten things.  If I had remembered then I wouldn't have forgotten.  I can't remember something I have forgotten.  When I realise I have forgetten  something, I can an awfull feeling in the pit of my stomache and I cannot appologise enough, yet some people still lay into me about it.  Like shouting at me helps in anyway! 

So, yes, that's what it feels like.  :O)