Ramifications of Qualities: Relationships and Brains

A behavior I've frequently seen in many men is going for qualities that they find attractive without thinking what are the ramifications of these qualities. If they get the partner they want, they then attempt to mold them into qualities that they want in a long-term relationship or feel betrayed and angry that the woman does not behave as anticipated. And this is a recipe for disaster.

If a woman is highly attractive, then it is likely that she would be attractive to other men, and that there would be a lot of temptation before her to be unfaithful. Instead of labeling such women as "sluts" or "whores," a rational stance would be to recognize this simple fact and be prepared for what may come. If a woman is highly attractive, then there will be other men going after her in droves. This is the case regardless of whether the woman is single or married.

If a woman is a free spirit, then it is likely that she will not be content with being put in a box or in an equivalent of a prison. Instead she will want freedom, both for herself and for her children. A man who gets involved with a woman who is a free spirit should likewise anticipate this and work with this, instead of deciding that women are evil and should be beaten out of it.

If a woman is a go-getter, a feminist, or someone who seeks to be in charge of her life, then she will not be content with a man ordering her around. Once again, this should be understood and anticipated. The man who wants to order women around should go with women who want to be ordered around, of whom there are more than many realize.

And the man who wants a "traditional wife" should be going for women who want to be "traditional wives," instead of going for qualities that they find attractive without understanding what these qualities mean for the woman's behavior and for what they stand to expect in a relationship with her.