Top 10 Major Reasons that Cause Most Break-ups
When I started my relationship with my beloved, I considered myself to be the most fortunate man on Earth. A year passed and our relation discovered new essence of love and intimacy for each other. Not only our bodies, but our minds and souls were immersed into the ocean of love. The whole world became a wonderful place of prospering our emotions. I was least aware of the fact that harsh reality of life was waiting to encounter our love life. Now I understand that it is more difficult to maintain the efficacy of a relationship than to initiate or terminate it.
I was least aware of the fact that we were riding on the road endowed with potholes to make our ride rough. We often had issues in our relationship, but these exist in every type of relationship. We both shared an eagerness to resolve the issues surfacing on the scene, which were potent enough to shatter our love bond. We used to have long discussions on our difference of opinions and used to come up with a solution at the end.
And today, we are on the verge of parting our ways. Is it our destiny or are we not perfectly matched for each other? Are we ready to beak-up with mutual consent? In order to find answers to these questions, I headed my way towards a relationship counselor. After analyzing my story, she endowed me with an elaborated outlook regarding various reasons, which may act as culprits for break-up of relations.
When you start believing a person, the relationship becomes trust-coated. However, this may provide the liberty to your partner to misuse your trust and mould it according to his or her own convenience. A relation starts with trust and ends, when this feeling starts evaporating from your relation. The day you start doubting your partner, the long journey traveled together holds no more significance.
The fumes of break-up start developing, when you feel a lack of understanding power in your partner. Understanding each other is very important to weed out small problems arising in love relationships. Even if a person does something wrong and the other person has great level of understanding, certain issues can be resolved. This understanding helps in building strong bonding between opposite genders and lack of this may act as severe blow for relations.
Your love may experience an interesting start, but as it moves further, it tends to lose this gluing power. It is necessary to keep you relation as fresh as every morning in your life. Loss of interest is mostly seen in young couples, who have recently entered into a relation and are not married. In due course of time, they get bored with their respective partners. The relationship ends, when the person feels suffocated and feels that his or her freedom is being hampered.
You and your partner started dating, when you both found each other as eligible match. But what happens, when one of you find a person with better qualities entering your life? Is it worthy enough to keep on changing your options and that too in such a sacred bond of love? Although this is not planned, but when any of the partners finds a better person, who makes him or her more comfortable, the differences start in a relation. When the drift in the relationship happens, a break up is an expected event in the relationship.
It has been seen a number of times that relations tend to fall flat, if one of the partners has high set of ambitions. It is good to be ambitious in life, but one must not let his or her ambitions pollute the relationship shared with opposite gender.
Every relationship demands the irrigation of time to get nurtured. If one of the partners has more than overloaded schedules, the other always feel lacked behind and neglected. It is important to expend quality moments with your partner to make him or her feel special and wanted.
In a relation, both partners need to share a breathing space, but over possessiveness of one of them leads to serious setbacks in the relation. Every person needs to maintain his or her individuality, apart from being a lover. So, providing space to your partner is very important.
It may be physical abuse, emotional abuse or sexual abuse; all these forms are not desirable for a relation to work. If one of the partners is abusive in any of the above mentioned regards, the relation becomes a burden for other. The private as well as public compatibility of two partners comes to an end with these pollutants making their way into a relationship.
Being in a relation doesn’t mean that your partner has no right to express his or her take on different matters. You must respect his or her opinions and demand same from him or her. In fact, a discussion session on any topic is a healthy way of knowing each other, rather than developing negative vibes for each other.
You need to have the flair to make adjustments in your relationship. Lack of this power and existence of stubbornness may add fuel to the fire in which, your relation is about to get burnt.
After going through that meeting with the consultant, today I sat down and realized what went wrong in my relationship with my partner. Finally, I have realized that we both are equally responsible for whatever has happened to our relation. I think if these reasons of break up are understood and weeded out from relations, the world will definitely become a good place to live with your beloved ones.