Why ask permission to change?

Life is not a long quiet river.  And life does not have to be a hassle either.  It does not have to be this fatalism before which you are totally powerless.  Life invites choices.  And it is up to you to respond to the invitation by continually choosing what you know is right for you, while including those you love in the process.  It is only then that significant and potent changes can occur.  The desire to change is very personal, and yet it should not take its source in some kind of egotistical considerations.  Ultimately, don’t you want to include your loved ones in your thirst for greater emancipation?  They do not have to join your party.  However they are empowered to choose whether they want to embark on a brand new adventure besides you.

When your instinct tells you that change can undoubtedly bring a certain value-added to your life, why should you start accumulating evidences against what you know?  Why would you choose to construct series of justifications as means to validate why you are not worth of it or why it is not feasible?  At the end of the day, you are the only one who is responsible for overriding your gut feeling.  If you do so, it would be wise to ask yourself who does not want you to shine.  Who would reject you instantly, if you dared to radiate a tiny bit too intensely?

::: Do you have the right to be yourself?

Most individuals have one motivation in life, which is to endure life, as it is.  Change is just a word, and nothing more.  From their viewpoint, all forms of inspirations that others display, especially intellectual, have to be crushed, simply because it does not fit inside the realms of what life is supposed to be: a succession of dreadful experiences.  Thus, your attempts to step out of the ordinary life of the group are viewed as direct attacks against the group itself and the way it functions.  “How dare you be so different?”  “Who do you think you are?”  How many times have those words been thrown at you to discourage you from being yourself?  Consequently, how many times did you end up choosing to give up on your own self, so you could conform to the expectations dictated by the masses?

Do most people really want to hear that you are thriving and prospering, or would they rather have you tell them in detail how difficult your life is at the moment?  Interestingly enough, the eventuality of being confronted to an inspiring success story does not encourage the common denominator to feel stimulated and motivated to overcome its limitations.  Elevation is bad, since it contributes to break the tranquility (and the mediocrity) of the status quo.  However, to collect as much information as possible around someone’s downfall is highly welcome.  It is a choice and a mentality to which the masses can relate with much joy and delectation.  It provides all the idiots in this world with this idea that distress is continually present around them.  It makes them feel better about themselves.  It makes them belong to something.  They have the feeling that they can never be alone.

Eventually, to give-up on yourself accommodates everyone but you.  Per this society, the decisions to relate and to fit-in are the two major conditions of a successful integration into any given environment.  Do you think that this system is worth divorcing what you are?  Should you continue to corrode everything that you represent, so you can be a full-time member of the herd?  It is a choice to refuse the idea of being castigated, chastised, and/or isolated for being your own self.  Unfortunately, to be excluded is the price that you need to pay, so you can finally live your life to the fullest.  If you are not willing to pay it, you give yourself no other choice but to wait for the time of your physical death, while systematically pretending that you made the right choice for your life.  But deep inside your soul continues to cry because it is dying.

::: Can you grow on your own terms?

How many times has “I cannot afford it” come out of your mouth?  Is this statement presently an intrinsic part of your life?  If that is the case, how does it make you feel?  Does it trigger the desire to seek expansion and prosperity?  Or does it make you believe that there is nothing that you can do at the moment, since you do not have what is required to afford “it”?  Perhaps to claim openly that you “cannot afford it” represents in reality a wonderful way to relate to those hundreds of millions of men and women out there, who choose to function from the exact same place?  If you want to make new friends, you have to do whatever it takes to copy their patterns and thought processes.  Ultimately, isn’t it so much more exciting to meet people who think alike?  It is so much fun to spend countless hours complaining all together about what you have decided you could not have, isn’t it?

Does the grass outside of your window ask for anyone’s permission to grow?  And once it has been mown, does it ask for anyone’s permission to grow again?  When someone steps on it, does it remain smooched, or does it always rise back up?  Would you like to embrace the same potency?  Why would you choose to surrender yourself to the first obstacle that finds itself on your way?  What if nothing or no one had the power to prevent you from thriving at all times?  What if you did not have to ask anyone for the permission to shine?  Remember, you are mostly surrounded by idiots. So what sense does it make to ask an idiot for his or her permission so you can shine?  How can you obtain such an approval from someone who does not want to know what it means?  “I cannot afford it” or “I cannot do it” does not resemble you.  This is the result of the influence that you allow your surroundings to have on you.

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Do not wait for anyone to empower you to change.  That deal is between you and your own self only.  And you really have to want it.  If it is only a pretense, the ramifications pertaining to your behavior will be absolutely dreadful.  You will find yourself regressing, without knowing how to stop such a destructive energy.  And the decision to blame anyone else but yourself for having embraced this choice will only precipitate your destruction.