Aaaahh! Why Does She Want to Be ‘Just Friends’? (Video)

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Aaaahh! Why Does She Want to Be "Just Friends"?

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We’ve all known someone who’s loved a woman from a distance… wanted
to be with her, but wasn’t sure how to share his feelings for her, how to go up to her and ask her out.

But what’s EVEN WORSE is loving her from no distance at all… being her best friend and wanting, hoping, wishing it could be more.

Why do Some Women Torture Men by Keeping Them "Just Friends" Instead of Lovers? 

Contrary to what some of guys may think, the woman of your dreams
(who happens to also be your friend) probably really values your
friendship. Yes, it’s possible for women to have dear friends who are
men, without being attracted to them in a romantic or sexual sense.  

Rampant homophobia aside, straight guys also have both male and
female friends they’re very close to, without being sexually attracted
to them. 

There is of course also the remote possibility that she’s not aware of your feelings.
This is a real long shot, and it generally implies that she’s not very
observant and doesn’t listen to her intuition. You can always tell if
someone likes you - all you have to do is listen.

And, maybe she wants to be with you romantically as well, but she’s
afraid to approach you for whatever reason. Maybe she’s shy or afraid
of rejection. Maybe she believes the man has to make the first move.
Sometimes two people truly want to be together, but neither one makes the move.

Either way, it’s your move. If you want to know, you’ve got to take
that first step and make a move. It doesn’t have to be a major item,
but escalate things until it’s very, very clear that you are interested.

When You Finally Share Your Feelings With Her, Why Does She Not Reciprocate? 

What if you’ve shared your feelings and she STILL doesn’t want to
date you? And she’ll probably give you some good, logical reasons for
it. But you have to find the REAL deep down reason, and it’s usually
not the logical one. As human beings, we often use logic to support
emotional decisions, basically a way to excuse what we really want to
do.

Here are several possible reasons…

1. She truly values your friendship more than romance

OK, this one sounds good, but it’s pretty unlikely. People take just
about any risk imaginable for the very possibility of finding true
love, closeness with another, and of course, amazing sex.

2. She just doesn’t like you that way!

While this is NOT what you want to her, it’s by far the most likely
situation. You may WANT her to like you as a lover, but she only likes
you as a friend.

Think back… surely at some point in your life, maybe back in school,
you had someone attracted to you, but you didn’t feel that way about
them. You may have liked them as a person, but you didn’t have romantic
or sexual feelings about them. Now, this same thing is happening with
you.

Moving On - Letting Go and Finding the RIGHT Woman for You

Hanging out in the friend zone is no way to live. She thinks you’re
just being a friend - of course she probably knows very well that you
want it to be more, but doesn’t want to lose your friendship. And
you’re unhappy because you’re trying to make this relationship into
something it just isn’t. That’s not fair to you and it’s not fair to
her.

And by keeping her in your life and WANTING it to be more, you’re
literally stopping the RIGHT woman from entering your life. It’s time
for you to move on and actually find a woman that WANTS to be with you
romantically and sexually, not "just friends". Decide that you’re ready
to find someone new, and open yourself to the opportunity of finding
that perfect someone.

Approach other women, talk with them, ask them out, and have fun! 

Here’s a question from a man in Arizona who’s desperately wondering
why the woman he loves from the barren depths of the friend zone won’t
take that risk to be more than friends…

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

Well, I have known this girl for a while now and when we started
hanging out we were getting ready to take our friendship to something
more… but she got scared and left?

Now she keeps coming back in and out of my life and saying that we
are good friends. I finally got the courage to ask her why she didn’t
let me be the man that she can love, and she told me that we are great
friends and she was scared of ruining our friendship.

Why wouldn’t she take the same risk with me that she had taken with others, including her current boyfriend? Help!

– Daniel, Arizona

Watch this short video for our thoughts on this very interesting question…

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