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Age 44 sucks but 70 rules: happiness study
by Rob Peters | January 30, 2008 at 09:52 am
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A new study on happiness concludes that we're our mirthiest at 20 and 70, and our most miserable at 44. Seem about right?
Based on my 30 years experience, life gets better with age. Self-awareness, patience, and acceptance of life's imperfections are some of the positive side effects of experience. Plus the twenties were just plain awkward.
What do our older and wiser NowPublicans think?
'The first 40 years of life is text, the rest is commentary," wrote Schopenhauer. Setting the watershed as low as 40 is arguable, but Schopenhauer surely had a point, and it may help to explain the results of a new survey that puts our most depressed age at 44. This vast study, carried out jointly by researchers at Warwick University and Dartmouth College in the US, has concluded that happiness is U-shaped: it peaks when we are 20 and 70, but slumps in the middle.
In your 20s and 30s, you think there is some big secret that is being withheld from you. But there is no secret. No one has a clue what they're doing or why. By 44 you are distressed to discover there is no secret and that life's glittering prizes are made of tin. But then comes the getting of wisdom. As Oswald observes, "When you get older, you've learned to accept yourself." You aren't Montaigne, you aren't going to be PM, you are just you. In Schopenhauerian terms, will is replaced by art, acceptance and a sense of the universal. You learn to enjoy the comedy of life's struggle, and happily take your place in this huge and leaking lifeboat.
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at 10:33 on January 30th, 2008
Hello Rob,
Hmmm .. 44 huh? I think this is where I'm supposed to say: "I'll let you know when I get there."
But I do happen to be truthful, so thinking back a little, I'd have to say they're pretty spot on with their observations - or at least where I was concerned.
I have to agree, that acceptance in many areas is something that comes with age - and that acceptance becomes almost comforting.
I don't worry about getting older - I never have, I just hope that I'm able to grow old gracefully, with charm and with my beloved husband.
~ Swan
at 11:21 on January 30th, 2008
I am in my early commentary years
at 11:41 on January 30th, 2008
Rob Peters, I like this story. It's interesting good stuff....but what happend to life begins at 40...anyways...it all depends on one frame of mind and spirit!
at 12:06 on January 30th, 2008
I enjoyed my twenties for what I didn't know... I'm enjoying my thirties for what I do know. (Also, for both decades, for what I thought/think I knew/know!) In each stage of my life so far, I haven't been in the same place, both geographically and in terms of my work, so it's harder for me to compare those stages to each other, which is likely a good thing.
at 20:23 on January 30th, 2008
Ecclesiastes tells us that the heart of a fool is in the house of mirth, and that the heart of the wise is in the house of mourning. Well, I'm 70 and recently orphaned, but I can still prove myself a fool by saying what the frog, the right-fielder, and the hooker agreed on -- time's fun when you're having flies.
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Aloha ~~~ Ozzie Maland ~~~ San Diego
at 11:20 on January 31st, 2008
this photo was found on the internet. i forgot the source. she likes big steak.
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