Before We Say 'I Do' - asking the right questions
By Ursula Tillmann
Nomi Whalen has married thousands of couples. She loves her profession as a marriage commissioner (J.P.). But the high divorce rate in North America motivated this educator, counselor and speaker to write the book "Before We Say 'I Do'". Because we often do, without knowing what we really want or dare to expect. We teach and are being educated in many fields and trades - but there is hardly any preparation for people, when they take their biggest step in life - marriage.
"This book should be law," she says in the video Tilltales taped in her home in the Rocky Mountains. Her book has 1000 questions for people, who consider getting married. One of Nomi Whalen's favorite storys about her book "Before We Say I Do: "The day a couple did the book and decided not to get married," she points out.
What's most important for a good marriage? "Common values," says Nomi Whalen. You don't need to share the same love for music or literature. Her husband, the famous broadcaster of hockey and wrestling, Ed Whalen, who passed away several years ago "was jazz and I am classical". She had a wonderful, dream-like marriage and wants other couples to have the same experience.
"Discussions are important, when you are doing my book with those 1000 questions," she notes. "Read those questions in the car, where he can't get away," she suggests to women readers. Do you know what the number one reason for divorce is? Nomi Whalen asks. "Money issues." Know what you are getting into, find out before you say "I Do" - is her advise for lasting relationships.
Watch the video on this page for the full interview with Nomi Whalen.
Her book is available from Temeron Books, at www.temerondetselig.com