How the Family Value has changed to a volcano you never know when it may errupts?
I am not surprised with the incident that has happened as usually it happens nowadays because all Man has not courage to change it or not able to cope up with new dimention of life which is more or less a mind game some time or if it is worst then you have to choose a new path with fresh energy take all other past memory as nightmare, but at the same time I would prefer to explain it's root cause:
Family for a Person:
A Bond in any society is the most powerful but it has many parameter and varies on individual with times.Every man since birth is being exposed with many individual which seems his family member in childhood becomes a seperate family in their social and personal interest whom any principled and social man always wants to keep in his loop for all time as he has many past emotional attachment.
This is the most crucial phase for a man where you can never predict that all will go smooth as it used to have in first phase. Now as new girl joins you as life partner,her own social network has high expectation based on their wish and fantacy.It is good if your partner is matured and understand your feeling and copup situation as per your own style otherwise you have to rethink your priority based on your partner wish. In today's Neuclear family concept your partner will scan your activity and analyize as per her personal benifits and personal satisfaction. In most of the case nowadays Inlaws involves themself in proactive way to change your interest as and when required with their self benifits.If you are lucky then no interference will come from Inlaws and you have simply make your partner happy all time in all areas.What is the general case is that most of the couple exchange heat of argument and Male partner fails to excute long term goal and give up the situation seing the consequence of it or takes it as sacrifice to show the female partner that how much I love You. Here the all aspiration of your earlier social network or family member gets boiled especially the father and mother who has give you all precious part of their life to make your future bright.All your near and dear feels you are a gone case and you have lost your social value, which all individual realises but it becomes a solider who has lost the War.In such situation you as a individual has to have metal toughness and should react bear minimum in your partner's action.Try to avoid the legal path as our legal system is based on corrupt system which will never give you just on time as a result your family become hell before any justice comes in picture. I would love all NGO's and local bodies to work actively on these matter as you never know when such virus can attack your own family before you could have get any solution.
-I should advise all family head of both side do not penetrate so much in any new couple's life that it may broke before it starts make shape.
-Keep Eyes open but don't impose any decision which give you pleasure with the cost of new relationship break.
-Avoid to come close in the new couple's personal life.
AUNE AHMAD ASAD