Wife Beater's Paradise

<To the tune of Gangsta's Paradise> As I walk down the hallways of the family courtI look at liberty and realize that there's none leftBecause they've been lying and blasting so longThat even judges think that women's minds are goneBut they don't put away the men who...

The Real Gender War

I have known many people, both women and men, who have been abused or are being abused by their partners. Most severe cases have been women at hand of men; but I've also seen enough woman-on-man nastiness. I am not going to accept the Christian explanation that all...

Kevin Federline Syndrome and Brittney Spears Syndrome

There are any number of ways in which one can be a jerk, and some of these have been catalogued and others haven’t. The form of which I am speaking right now has not been catalogued; but it has happened in enough situations that I believe it to be commonplace. I refer to...

Open Letter to Eminem

Dear Mr. Mathers,  Allow me to introduce myself. My name is Ilya Shambat. My family came from Russia to America when I was 12. I went on a full scholarship to a private school and finished University of Virginia at age 18. In my adult life, I have done everything from...

Domestic Violence: Cure and Prevention

So far the issue of family violence has not been approached rationally. There are some people who go to jail for an argument or a slap, and there are others who get away with breaking their partner's skull and not only get away with it but get to keep the children. It is...

Sex - Or Gender? Film Review: "What to Expect When You Are Expec

By Sam VakninAuthor of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" Film Review: "What to Expect When You Are Expecting" (2012) Modern pop culture bombards us with gender stereotypes, which by now have become truisms: women are always sensitive, misunderstood, in touch with...

Hillary Clinton and Marital Infidelity

A lot of people despised Bill Clinton for having sex with Monica Lewinski. Most of these people make much worse husbands than Bill Clinton made. The only person who stood to get hurt by his affair - Hillary Clinton - got a very good deal in the relationship. She was allowed...

Politically Correct Errors and Better-Construed Feminism

For a long time, political correctness has dominated academia and the media, pushing aggressive and heavy-handed party line in a manner quite reminiscent of fascism and Communism. It is time that there be a real challenge to political correctness - a challenge that is...

Ramifications of Qualities: Relationships and Brains

A behavior I've frequently seen in many men is going for qualities that they find attractive without thinking what are the ramifications of these qualities. If they get the partner they want, they then attempt to mold them into qualities that they want in a long-term...

Intercultural Flux and Gender Harmony

We often see Western men complain that as a result of feminism the Western women (and especially American women) have turned into impossible harpies, and that having a relationship or a marriage in the West has become impossibly hard, whereas in places such as Afghanistan men...

Disincentivize Abuse. Prosecute False Advertising.

Yet another person I know is attempting to divorce a man who has been highly abusive to her. This woman has strong education in psychology, and she has dated this person for three years to ensure that he was a good person; then when they got married he turned into a brute and...

Cold Empathy and Warm Empathy

By Sam VakninAuthor of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" Empathy is comprised of two components: I. Cold Empathy: an intersubjective agreement as to the mental content (especially emotions) of two or more human subjects; II. Warm...

Generations, Rebellion and Self-Expression

Having had many interactions with young people who are into either the hippie idea or the "urban decay" type styles, I've come to the conclusion that most of them are not doing it as rebellion but rather as self-expression. I have known many of the type who are not angry; who...

Gender Wars to Gender Harmony

I've made, and I continue to make, the case that the gender wars teach both the men and the women to be the worst thing that they can be. There is a reason for this stance.A good man will want to be good to the women in his life, and a good woman will want to be good to the...