Gender Wars to Gender Harmony

I've made, and I continue to make, the case that the gender wars teach both the men and the women to be the worst thing that they can be. There is a reason for this stance.A good man will want to be good to the women in his life, and a good woman will want to be good to the...

Why force an impossible relationship?

Why force anything for that matter?  Most people have been conditioned to believe that their intrinsic value is measured by their ability to create relationships.  What does it infer?  To be deemed successful, all relationships must be maintained, no matter...

Why ask permission to change?

Life is not a long quiet river.  And life does not have to be a hassle either.  It does not have to be this fatalism before which you are totally powerless.  Life invites choices.  And it is up to you to respond to the invitation by continually choosing...

Gender Totalitarians

We see men militating against women and we see women militating against men; but we do not see either side in the gender conflict recognizing differences among men and differences among women.The problem with the gender wars of the last two and a half decades is that the...

Is grief an infallible means to control and manipulate others?

Have you ever been shocked by the behavior that some folks display during funerals?  All those inconsolable men and women who seem totally unable to handle the passing of a loved one; a loved one they would take for granted and treat with much disrespect when he or she...

Does sex scare the hell out of you?

The decision to have sex with someone else requires one major element.  You must agree to take all your clothes off in front of another person, who himself or herself has to be in line with the exact same agreement.  Then what is left of you is this sense of extreme...

An article for men only

Truly, this article is for men/boys only. If a woman reads this and gets incensed, gets angry or attacks me, that's your problem – you've been warned; this article is ONLY for men/boys. Let me make clear first that it's NONE of my mission to increase/inflame this 'war...

Shouldn’t you thank this slut for stealing the love of your life?

Don’t you think that it is way too easy to label as a slut the woman for whom your boyfriend or husband is choosing to leave you? Things happen, even in the most unexpected way. However, do they totally come from left field, or do they ultimately happen because you...

Qualities in Relationships

A behavior I've observed on the part of a number of men is going for women who have one set of qualities but expecting in a relationship an opposite set of qualities. Specifically, they are attracted to artistic free-spirited women, but want in a relationship a traditional...

Are “You’ve hurt my feelings” and “You need to change” setups?

If you thought that blackmail and extortion were solely about financial stuff, you may want to reconsider your opinion.  The utilization of emotions and their by-products such as “You’ve hurt my feelings” or “You need to change” have turned the practice of...

Is anyone else more valuable than you?

Who do you consider to be so much more valuable than you, and for whom you would choose to throw your entire life down the drain?  As disturbing as it may sound, this question unambiguously illustrates a choice that a large majority of individuals make on a regular...

Yawn together, stay together

The next time you yawn, notice whether others are also yawning. Yawns can be contagious. However their response may indicate how close a relationship exists between you and them. Read more about this study...

Living/acting out of fear is NOT an option

This article is as much for me as any man/woman out there who's afraid to approach 'the one they love'. The more you care about someone, the more afraid you are of rejection. If you don't care, then you're never afraid. If you are unsure about someone, use that as your guide...