on a lighter note ;)

eHarmony came out with a great set of mini-articles about what kinds of dates to avoid if you're looking for an enduring relationship.. Of course, if you want something temporary or superficial, go for it. ^^ But i suggest making it very clear to your partner that's what...

prime values

Values that relate to human civilization: long-term benefit, sustainable, power to do good, practical, balance, holism, adaptable,.. Values that relate to work/play: inspiration, intuition, cooperation, collaboration, elegance, enthusiasm, learning, improving, mental agility,...

The Little Red Riding Hood and the Troubadour

The Little Red Riding Hood's father killed the wolf that had tried to eat her. On their way back home, he admonished her. "You are too gullible," he said. "You must exercise discretion about whom you should trust." She said, "But Daddy, the wolf was hungry." Her father...

Ayn Rand and Relationships

In Eric Banden's memoir, there is a situation in which he asks Ayn Rand how she could have so precisely developed the Richard Rearden character in Atlas Shrugged. Her response: "It's a rational universe." She then elaborated that for every woman there is a male equivalent;...

Is compromising the ultimate lose-lose scenario?

Isn’t it literally mind-blowing to notice the importance that compromising holds inside this society?  It is so preponderant that all religious figures and all relationships gurus out there teach that a successful relationship has to be based on the decision to...

Doesn’t hearing “I love you” sometimes make you want to throw up?

The success of a relationship is measured by two main attributes: love and loyalty.  But how many times have you heard, “I love you!” or “I will always be there for you!” before finding yourself betrayed and humiliated by a partner to whom you had given all your...

Is a genuine friendship between a man and a woman possible?

Do you really believe that men are from Mars and women from Venus?  I do not.  Not all men and not all women behave identically.  This type of categorization is unreasonable and counter-productive, because it creates a scission between the two genders. ...

Are you sure that you are not better off being single?

What value resides in staying in a relationship that is suffocating you?  For what valid reasons would you choose to be involved in a relation that is a total negation of what you are?  Every single time you say “Yes” to your partner when in reality you want to...

Why stay in a toxic relationship?

There are so many men and women who are currently involved in highly toxic relationships and who have no desire to leave them.  To most people, this does not make any sense whatsoever.  Why would anyone elect to be in a relation that is toxic and therefore...

Do you require the constant re-assurance of being loved?

Most people refuse to see love as a genuine sentiment.  In their world, love must be loaded with high volumes of unspoken expectations, one of which being the utter need for reciprocity.  In other words, to say “I love you” requires hearing “I love you” in...

Are you involved in a cult and do not know it?

Most individuals are highly averse to finding themselves completely alone, because society views aloneness as a proof of total social inadequacy.  This type of aversion solidifies the necessity to fit-in at all costs.  It is like an obligation.  As a result,...

Why do they need you to fail them?

Something quite intriguing and yet so predictable happened to me last week.  A few months ago, I was contacted by a lady who lives in Australia and who inquired about my relationship counseling services.  In the weeks that followed, we had several informal...

Should there be any compassion for those who commit suicide?

I have always thought that suicide is certainly the most selfish act that someone can commit.  It is absolutely ruthless and it totally dismisses the sentiments, concerns and generosity of those who truly care about the one who has taken his or her own life.  For...

Errors of Psychology

Freud's Formative Errors Sigmund Freud made a false root analysis and built on it several major false analyses that have had disastrous effects on the 20th century. When treating female patients who suffered from"hysteria," he was again and again confronted with them...

The Lit Chick Show looks at Depression Cookies

In this edition of the show, novelist and host, Sylvia Massara, features a mother and daughter writing team, and their book Depression Cookies.Abby is buckling under the weight of a husband who is climbing the...

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