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Facebook has changed (read: dilluted/debased) the meaning of the word "friend". I have always maintained that no one is my "friend" until they have been to my home for dinner. Otherwise they are acquaintences. Now we see that research backs this up. Most people have no meaningful contact with the majority of their Facebook "friends"
Real friends rare among Facebook hordes By Misty Harris, Canwest News Service Kris Krug has 2,534 "friends" on Facebook. Rob Trick has 1,924. And Sarah Pull-man counts a modest 562 men and women among her virtual besties.
But according to new findings by Cameron Mar-low, the social networking site's research scientist, it's unlikely these three Canadians enjoy frequent online interaction with more than 22 of their so-called friends, and unlikelier still that they enjoy regular two-way communication such as e-mail or online chats with more than 13.
Facebook users with 120 friends--the average for the site--fare marginally better than the "500-plus" group, in terms of their friend-to-interaction ratio. Men share frequent comment exchanges with seven of their friends, and regular two-way conversations with four; women leave comments for 10 and communicate with six.
Pullman, a 29-year-old Canadian attending university in California, says the findings "feel about accurate," although she's bashful about revealing this, given the hundreds of people on her friend list.
Marlow's research is consistent with studies on ape behaviour that suggest biology restricts our capacity to function within groups larger than 150, known as "the Dunbar number."
The degree to which on-line friendships are meaningful seems to shrink as the network grows.
"Facebook is really good for keeping in touch with third-order friends--the ones on the periphery of your world that you don't usually call or talk to," says Krug, 32, a photographer from Vancouver. "It's not that good for keeping in touch with your secondorder friends-- the 12 or 20 people in your life that you really care about.And it's a really terrible way to keep in touch with first-order friends, like your lover or your spouse."
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Most RecentMost Recommended Comments (4)
at 14:00 on August 5th, 2009
I think 'friend is inappropriate' in some cases. I prefer 'aquaintance' or 'colleagues'. I wish Facebook would change the settings to something more appropriate.
at 14:01 on August 5th, 2009
I quite like 'comrade' for some, some are quite 'radical':-)
at 14:07 on August 5th, 2009
Most of my 'good Facebook friends' live miles away from me. I think even if they lived near me, they would be knocking on my door for a chat all the time. It is just unfortunate they live far away. So some are real friends and some are 'acquaintances'. Personally, I quite like them online, it has to be said, I am not the most social person! If I had friends living nearby I would be tempted to stick a nice big 'Do Not Disturb' sign as sometimes friends can knock on the door when you have other things to do. I am a much better friend when they stay online and so I can contact them, 'on my terms'! Surprisingly, they haven't deleted me yet.
at 14:09 on August 5th, 2009
I have a simple litmus test for who is a friend. If I have been to your home or you have been invited to mine then you are a friend. Otherwise you are not.