The "Dark Side" of "The Secret" on Oprah
You've seen "The Secret" on Oprah. Jerry Adler of Newsweek has written a scathing assesment. Now take a look at the "dark side" of "The Secret" - my assesment.
Really? A Secret?
really a big issue, but this understanding has been around for a while
- like a few thousand years. The Secret is a basic part of the mystical
teachings of Gautama Buddha and Yeshua of Nazareth(Jesus Christ). It's
simple to find if you really study.
More recently, this
teaching has been popularized by Lynn Grabhorn in her "Excuse Me Your
Life Is Waiting" books. Published about 7 years ago. Lynn Grabhorn
attributes most of her insights to a channeled being called Abraham.
This is not meant to demean this information in any way. Wisdom finds
its way into our consciousness in various and mysterious ways. But how
do we use this wisdom properly?
The Dark Side!
motivation. When the sages taught this type of practice, their
intention was that you understand how the universe works and that you
use this knowledge for spiritual maturation and in other wholesome
ways. If you look at what most of the present day teachers talked about
on Oprah, you will see them emphasising that "You can have what you
want". . . or "You can create the life of your dreams". There was a lot
of talk about wealth and prosperity, getting good jobs, finding a mate
In contrast to that, Yeshua (Jesus) said: "You must die to
yourself daily to enter the kingdom." So, what's wrong with this
picture? Basically two things: Balance and emotional maturity. Think
about it this way. Would you give your 6 year old child 20 bucks and
send him into a candy store? Too much power and too little maturity can
lead to disaster. Take a look at some of Hollywood's celebrity train
wrecks, or how bout rock & roll stars?
Fortunately, actuating the authentic power of "The Secret" takes much more than most emotionally imature people can muster. (this includes most of us). In order to operate in this mode, it takes focus, steadfast intention, and the ability to generate energetic states at will.
So, this is the main
problem with "The Secret". People are emotionally immature. People have
desires and needs. These desires and needs are almost always driven by
the undeveloped parts of us. In other words, our "needs" arise out of
the wounds we contracted during our early development. Is it really productive to try to
use an advanced spiritual technology and apply it to manifesting these
desires and meeting these needs? Isn't this just another way to satisfy our
addictions? Without the balancing aspects of these spiritual
technologies, we could be in for trouble.
balance the teachings of "The Secret". The first step is to look at
your needs and desires. They are windows into your unhealed parts or
wounded child. Before you jump into automatically trying to fulfill
your needs and desires, use the power of focus to observe the "needy
you" behind them. This needy you needs to be re-parented, not to have a
lollipop stuck in its mouth. Sorry if that's a little harsh. But
judging by what I've seen, this is a sorely needed "tap on the butt". This reparenting is your responsability. Taking responsability is the first sign of maturity.
process the pain inside. By focusing on the origin of your "needs" and
processing the pain, you begin to heal the needy parts of your soul.
This leads to emotional maturity. Continued inner work in this arena
leads to Wholeness. A Whole person acts from a place I call "energetic
responsibility". After becoming more mature and responsible, we will
have a much better clue as to how to manifest that which is really good
for us and for mankind.
Learning the details of how to process
your inner pain instead of being driven by it is beyond the scope of
this article. You can find excellent information at:
Integral Life Coaching - http://integral-life-coach.com
Ultimately, travelling down
this path, you will find that Wholeness is a state beyond pain based
need. It's a state where all your neediness has been healed and you
become the Source for your own peace, power and joy. You become
continuously and permanently connected to all things and the Source of
all things. This includes the ability to create or generate inner
states like Love anytime you want. When you can directly generate inner
states, there is no need to go outside yourself for any type of
fulfillment. Only then are you really free or mature enough to manifest
in a truly energetically responsible way.