What Every Guy and Girl Should Know

What
Every Guy and Girl Should Know

By Danielle
Horner

The more I'm around the generation behind
me, the more and more I'm hearing about the drama that comes along with finding
'THE' One. I hear things like, "I want my husband to be tall enough
to make me feel safe when he hugs me" or things like, "I want my wife
to think I'm the most gorgeous thing she's ever laid eyes on," and on
and on and on. I guess over the last month I've been pondering these
things more than I realized until now. I remember having all those same
thoughts, all those same 'lists' of qualifications. Of course I would
preface it with saying that I didn't care how he looked, just as long as he
loved God. Yet, the rest of my list certainly focused on things more than
how often he read his Bible. It's human nature-we want to fall in
love. We want all the bells and whistles AND we want to both feel that
way about someone AND for someone to feel that way about us. The problem
with this is that in order for the sun to rise and set with us and with
the one we love those lists needs some serious adjusting. Let me
explain....

Guys, believe me when I say you'll benefit greatly from what
I'm about to share. Every girl on the planet wants a guy to chase her,
just like in the movies. Well, that's just the beginning of understanding
us (women). Take to heart what I'm about to say..

Ladies, no guy will ever be tall enough to make you feel
safe. It's a fact. It's impossible. That's because protection
and real Love come from within the man. It's in the way he says your
name. It's in the way he calls you to make sure you're home safe and
sound. It's in the way he protects your reputation when you're not
around. It's in the way he prefers you in any given situation without you
having to constantly ask him to choose you. It's in the way he looks in
your eyes, assuring you that his eyes fall on you alone. It's in the way
he wars for you in prayer. It's in the way he leads you when you're emotionally
spinning out and he steps in and says, "No, we're not going down
that path any longer. This is the way out of this. Follow
me." It's in the way that he knows what your favorite things are and
surprises you with them for no reason. It's in the way he tells you
he loves you when you're yelling at him. It's in the way he values all
you've shared of yourself by honoring you in the hardest of moments. It's
in the way he is willing to do whatever it will take to change himself in order
to offer you a better man than the one you fell in love with. It's
in the way he not only dreams with you, but dreams for you, on your
behalf. It's in the way he not only wants more for your life, but puts
action to that desire to help bring it to pass.

This is the sort of man that will make you feel protected.
This is the type of man who will always make you feel loved. This is the
kind of man who is worthy of such a fierce love in return.

Guys, when you can offer a girl this sort of
man-in-the-making, you can believe that she will find you to be the most
gorgeous thing she's ever laid eyes on. Whether you are tall or short,
built or skinny, handsome or average, she will see beauty in you. She
will see the man you desire to become even as you try to become that man and
she will cheer you on with a conviction and joy reserved only for you.
Your name will be the only name on her lips, the only passion in her heart,
the only desire in her life.

Sometimes it's so much easier to default to fixing the
outside because it seems to have a quicker turnaround time and the return seems
more beneficial. But truly, there is no greater love than a love birthed
out of preference for another, faithfulness toward another,
and an unwavering trust in another. To look into the eyes of
another and KNOW that person's heart and mind ONLY knows you.....that is Love.

"No greater love has no man than this- that he lays down
his life for a friend." May we all learn the meaning of laying down
our lives.....