Boyzone's gay tragedy : Little gay boy lost

by smkovalinsky | October 15, 2009 at 05:31 am
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"And when he did finally come out in a blaze of publicity ten years ago, it coincided with him becoming hooked on drugs to deal with a bout depression so severe he became a virtual recluse who confided to friends his suicidal thoughts. "
 ~ Paul Scott,  "Boyzone's Little Boy Lost",  Independent News and Media 



Boyzone's Stephen Gately suffered homophobic slurs in his native Dublin, Ireland,  where he grew up a working class Sheriff Street lad.    Gately  was plunged into suicidal depression and drug abuse while trying to pare his gay identity with being a teen heart throb for millions of adoring young female fans. 

Gay identity is problematic for males,  even at the height of a global gay acceptance. 
Gately would name Elton John as the saving grace in his life,  pulling him from the brink of suicidal despair and encouraging his interest in Eastern chakra meditation.  Apparently,  it was not enough to stave off self-loathing and death.   

During the height of their fame in the late 1990s, the five members of pop band Boyzone sat around discussing their various plans for a rare weekend off. 
Their respective agendas involved some resolutely testosterone-charged classic rock star behaviour - car racing, several celebrity parties to attend and a spot of mandatory nightclub excess. 

Throughout the discussion, Stephen Gately remained unusually quiet. When, finally, his band mates demanded to know how he would be spending his free time, Gately, always the most introverted of his famous cohorts, announced somewhat sheepishly he was planning to stay at home, reading horoscopes and indulging his latest interest in New Age crystals. 

Gately never quite fitted the stereotypical image of your average boyband member. 

In truth, that was a role that never sat easily with him and threatened for a time to destroy him as he sought to hide his homosexuality from the heartthrob group's millions of adoring girl fans. 

And when he did finally come out in a blaze of publicity ten years ago, it coincided with him becoming hooked on drugs to deal with a bout depression so severe he became a virtual recluse who confided to friends his suicidal thoughts. 

International fame came to him at an exceptionally young age. 

Gately, the fourth of five children brought up in a tough district of Dublin's city centre, was just 17 when he applied for a band being put together by Irish impresario Louis Walsh in 1993. 

The group's teen-friendly ballads proved a commercial hit, chalking up six No1 singles and selling in excess of 15million records. 

But just as they were hitting the big time, showbusiness was rife with rumours about Gately. The singer went to incredible lengths to keep his homosexuality a secret. 

The band's PR handlers put out smokescreen stories claiming he was dating a series of female pop stars, including Emma Bunton of the Spice Girls and Mandy Smith, the ex-wife of Rolling Stone Bill Wyman. But behind the scenes he had begun a relationship with Dutch singer Eloy de Jong who was himself a member of Europop boyband Caught in the Act. 
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mudricky

It's tragic, I remember when the story broke years ago. The press, as you would expect were rather unfair on him.

British press can be really NOT nice at times.

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Amy Judd

'at times' - I think all the time! They really are ruthless!

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sara star

The Irish singer was found dead on Saturday on the sofa in his apartment in Port Andratx on the island after a night out with his 'husband' Andrew Cowles.

...He said he had never seen the 33-year-old West End star in better health or better form.

An investigation into the circumstances of Gately's death was underway, with police concentrating on a night out he had with Cowles. A post-mortem and toxicology tests took place on 13 October and this examination showed that Gately died of natural causes due to pulmonary oedema.


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Amy Judd

We have some Stephen Gately updates about cause of death and his funeral

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AGK

Thanks for your recommendation and support,  Mudricky (my normal account is spammed out from a technical glitch,  which is why I may seem rude at times ignoring PMs,  but it is hard for me to post on a second account--sorry :()  Yes,  British and American press,  both,  I suppose.  It is odd that some gay males struggle so much with identity,  while others seem not to care.  I think this was one deeply sensitive young male,  and it is very sad to think of his (pointless, really) suffering,  as he was fine just as he was.  (By the way,  the other day when you sent me that,  "Cheers for the reccy!"  that made my day:  It was so,  so  British,  nothing remotely like that could come from an American mouth!)  thanks :)  !!! smkovalinsky

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mudricky

Shame you can't use your regular account, that happened to me for about two months, I grinned and bared it.

Glad you liked the comment one of the times I replied to you ha ha.

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