Focus on the Task, not the fear of the Task

Fear of success, fear of failure, fear of change,fear of loneliness  are all powerful emotions that ultimately we need to embrace as we restyle our lives after a life changing event. the tragedy may be universal around the world but the fallout is profoundly different. Equitable care physically or emotionally is so far out of reach when we need it most.  When a Midwest Farmer breaks his neck, his life immediately takes on a posture of "FEAR".  Elements such as kids in college, mortgage payments and family expenses bear down like a D-9 tractor with the blade lowered. Recovery care takes a back seat to surviving.  Personal injury, job loss, forclosure seem to circle like a vulture and cast a dark cloud over the blessings that still remain.

We want to recover as soon as possible and get back a familiar life we have built for ourselves and our family.  We become very sensitive to people who are expieriencing the same fears like a child with cancer, or a husband with a broken neck or a family business on the verge of failure. All real fears and all require strong and stedfast emotions to make it through the fire.  Generally our lives revolve around close friends, family and work. So when one moment in time takes your ability to work, provide for your family and of course socialize with your friends, its very easy to secume to the bleakness of our dilema.  When we focus on our recovery it becomes clear that our lives will not look the same.  Can we still find pride in our lives when our house is gone, our vehicles are gone, and our friends are tired of walking us through our journey back to "normal".  Pride gets in the way of compassion,  anger gets in the way of tolerance.

We must focus on the task....getting better for all the right reasons.  Our children need us, our friends are waiting for us to 'accept" and step up to a new reality and embrace the change and find our way.

Fight the fear