Glad and shy to be gay in India

by rahul | July 10, 2008 at 11:16 am | 782 views | 17 comments | 36 recommendations

Being gay in India has never been easy. It is still a criminal offece. However, newer gereations have tried to expand more liberal norms further away from the four metros (New Delhi, Chenai, Mumbai and Kolkata). However, village and social religious norms are still to be changed. It is indeed a hard work.

Glad to be gay (but a bit shy about it)

Jul 3rd 2008 | DELHI
From The Economist print edition

Where Victorian values and repressive laws still hold
EPAOut of the closet, at least

THERE were no half-naked dancers, pink floats, or sailor boys locked in clinches; but India’s gay-pride parade was ground-breaking enough without them. Several hundred men and women, waving rainbow flags, danced, stamped and sang their way through the city centres of Delhi, Bangalore and Kolkata (Calcutta) on June 29th—the first such national event in this conservative country. The parade was lent a uniquely Indian flavour by flamboyant cross-dressing hijras, known as eunuchs, although many modern hijras are gay men who feel alienated by mainstream society. Though hijras, once trusted courtiers of the Mughal emperors, have a well-established identity in India, gay men and women do not; indeed the practice of homosexuality is illegal, punishable with ten years’ imprisonment.

Many of those who paraded under heavy monsoon clouds in Delhi said one of their main motives was to campaign for the repeal of that law, Section 377 of India’s penal code, which deems homosexuality an “unnatural sexual offence” alongside bestiality. They say the section, drawn up 150 years ago by the British, is today routinely used by the police to harass and blackmail homosexuals, even if few are arrested. Delhi’s High Court is currently weighing a petition against Section 377 brought by an umbrella group of Indian NGOs. “I feel we’re living under the shadow of the Victorians,” shuddered one young man, as beside him a group of hijras in hot pink saris broke into Bollywood-style pelvic thrusts. He might have added that he was also living under the shadow of his mother, who, he feared, would soon start introducing him to suitable girls. “I suppose then I will have to come out.”

 

Despite a burgeoning gay scene in India’s big cities, many Indian homosexuals worry more about exposure to their families and colleagues than about the law. “My brother knows; my mother doesn’t,” says Pankash, a 23-year-old year-old student who likes to be known as Tina when he goes on dates dressed as his glamorous alter ego. Though he was not incognito on Sunday, many of his fellow paraders were. Waving placards with slogans such as “Gay and loving it”, many still wore paper masks, lest they were “outed” on television.

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amyjudd
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at 11:26 on July 10th, 2008

rahul, I like this story. It's good stuff.

I'm glad things are starting to change. It's a necessary step.

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at 11:28 on July 10th, 2008

rahul, I like this story. It's good stuff.

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Johnny Summerton

Well said for you ps Rahul. Is it something we're going to have to get used to putting at the end of our posts?

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rahul

Merci!

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at 12:41 on July 10th, 2008

rahul, I like this story. Thanks for posting it.  I salute the hijras:  they have the courage that the rest of us shirk from!  I like the way they organise themselves into seven districts of the city and their aggressive stance in confronting the homophobes they encounter. I remember the times in Britain when gays were hounded by the police and even sleeping in the same bed was a criminal act,  I was 35 before I came out - I was forced out of the closet by my "queenie" friends!  They would have been a sort of mild equivalent of hijras:  cross dressers who insisted on using women's toilets.  I used to go to Gay Liberation when I arrived in London and we used to travel home on the tube (the subway as it is in the US).  We used to kiss each other flamboyantly in the carriage before leaving - through the macho East End of London.  I was the last to leave!  That taught me a lot about facing my homophobic tormentors!  But I could do it only with the support of these outrageous queens!  Therefore I salute the hijras!

Gerry

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rahul

Gerrypopplestone, Thanks for the good stuff flag and your most touching comments. I imagine how difficult it was to go through the East End of London. I recall a 1985 movie called My Beautiful Laundrette which also depicted homophobic at an inter racial context. 

As when it comes to talk about Hijras, I must recognise it is still a rather complex situation in India. As my local South Delhi Hidras recounted, their place in Indian society dates back to both Hindu and Islam princely times. Their place in courtly India as royal eunuchs was rather important; this explain how transsexuals are tolerated in Iran and given facilities to change sex.  The British Raj did not take much time to bother with Hidras as they continue to entertain and beg only.

Nowadays, Hidras continue to face legal problems to show their chosen identity when voting in elections or having their grievances heard by police. During the mid nineties, I came across some sad news of forced penis mutilation and slavery. However, I cannot recall such situations in recent times. 

As opposed to publicly display personae of Hidras, the Indian Gay community has been constrained to the very walls of private spaces and public parks at night. Furthermore, caste and arranged marriages could force them to play heterosexual roles despite their true orientation.  Now that the boy birth rate has sadly outgrowned that of girls - for dowry reasons- male/male relationships could probably have more chances to develop publicly.

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gerrypopplestone

Well said, Rahul.  These anons can insult from behind their shields!

Johnny Summerton
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rahul, This story definitely warrants a flag. Good post.

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Johnny Summerton, thank you for the good stuff flag

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Johnny Summerton

You're welcome

Rhonda J Mangus
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rahul, I like this story. It's good stuff.

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Anonymous

Is the any reason the entire world has to adopt the dreadful mores of the USA? The whole article reeks of neocolonialism. Leave these people alone to work it out for themselves. I dont understand people who want the entire planet to be the same, particularly when the criteria is based on the ugly, degenerate models of the english-speaking world. The non-liberalized parts of the world are the only areas worth visiting any more. Tokyo has a very discreet gay scene, it's also incredibly extensive and 100x more fascinating than anything in West Hollywood or Chelsea NYC. The American model for "liberation" should def be avoided. The end result is dreary beyond anything you can imagine.

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rahul, I like this story. It's good stuff--heck, the p.s. alone is worth a GS.

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However, village and social religious norms are still to be changed. It is indeed a hard work.

If you get rid of tradition and custom, then what? What do you replace it with? Just look at the USA, completely fragmented, no social cohesion whatsoever, a population in need of constant surveillance, loads of jails (and more people in them per capita than China), no culture, no art, ghastly music, hideous architecture, and tons of of loud, unhappy botched women, completely liberated and many exceeding 250lbs. Is this really an improvement? You should never get rid of anything unless you know what you're replacing it with.

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rahul, I like this story and the PS. It's good stuff.

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