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Iris Evans creates Controversy - One parent should stay home
Iris Evans, Alberta's Minister of Finance, has created controversy with her remarks that in order to raise children properly one parent should stay at home.
This story has had commentators and the public line up on both sides of this issue. Some totally agree with Iris Evans, while others tell her to butt out and respect individual parenting decisions without judgment.
For her part Iris Evans has apologized to those people that she might have offended. Obviously this story has struck a core with many people. Some say one should not put career ahead of their children, while others say with this economic environment, there is not much choice for parents.
No matter which side of the issue you are on, this appears to be a controversy that will not go away soon.
Update: Evans clarifies her controversial remarks. Read Here
Read Iris Evans' biography here
Alberta Finance Minister Iris Evans is refusing to heed calls to apologize for saying that one parent needs to stay at home, while the other goes to work, in order to raise a child properly.
Evans, 67, declined media interviews on Thursday but issued a written statement to clarify her remarks, which she made on Wednesday to the Economic Club of Canada in Toronto.
"I understand some people were offended by some of what I said. I did not intend to suggest there is only one way to raise a child," Evans wrote.
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at 14:30 on June 19th, 2009
Can people earning minimum wages can afford to live on one income? Do they can have kids?
at 06:33 on June 19th, 2009
I am sorry but I vote for her, she is right and I support her, this is not about individual rights, but about the well fair of children and if parents can not get it through their head that once you have children that is all that matters and all that counts then they should not ever have kids in the first place.
Children need a stable and well balanced family with both parents and one stay at home parent.
Money is not important to kids, as long as there is food on the table all is fine, no need for big screen TV nor for SUV or vacation to Bermuda.
Kids first.
at 14:28 on June 19th, 2009
Iris Evans, as a FINANCE minister of Alberta should be able to tell us based on average cost of living How many house holds in Alberta can afford to live on one income?
at 15:37 on June 19th, 2009
This study has been done by the University of Western Ontario in 1989 I believe and almost every family back then could have afforded a stay at home Parent, since the expenses for a second car and day care and so one exceeded the gains of the second income.
Making in fact cheeper to have an at home parent. However fashion and social pressures do play a role here.
at 18:15 on June 19th, 2009
My family income (Take home aprox. 35,000 a year) from one person is $2,200.
mortgage - (house value 180,000 small bought 2002 assuming 4% interest rate) $1100
property taxes -$150
Utilities - $200
food - You want to eat healthily $400
Gas - one car driving downtown $100
Parking - minimum $100
Car payment - one car (non fancy) $200
I don't thing it is enough to cover my basic bills. So, because the second income we can cover the previous bills and afford clothing, insurance, phone, dentist, school supplies, hair cuts and soccer.
Any more studies by any other universities?
at 18:30 on June 19th, 2009
You certainly know your expenditures and yes Marg you need to live. Iris Evans, and I'm not defending her, had children foremost on her mind. Her statement today was very emotional. She was at a ceremony in Toronto when she made the statement. Her contention is that it was out of context. Please read the statement made by her. I placed a link on the bottom of my story.
Thank you for commenting. We all have our budget issues, especially when younger and raising a family. I guess what I'm saying is that we all must make choices that are best for our families.
at 18:53 on June 19th, 2009
I guess when somebody make generalizations it takes just one case to prove that person wrong.
at 16:40 on June 19th, 2009
It.s a matter of supply and demand. Even families have been greedy. Just look at the excesses in the last few years in Alberta. Yes not only the big banks and oil companies were greedy so were average families. Take a look around Edmonton and the number of cars for each household. Take a look at Credit Card debts, big flat screen TVs, automobiles and the size of houses people live in.
Having said that, it.s not every family that has that choice, but many do. They aspire to accumulate wealth.
Alberta until the recent crash has been very affluent. If we are all honest with ourselves, we will see the quad, the snowmobile, the boat and an RV in a lot of driveways and garages, not to speak of the monster houses. Does that require two incomes?, you bet.
at 07:00 on June 19th, 2009
Thank you for your comments. She wasn.t telling anyone how to live their lives anyways. She was stating her opinion on this subject, based on her lifetime experience of raising kids. The media, of course, jumped on this statement. Iris Evans was a nurse in her former life.
at 07:10 on June 19th, 2009
Thanks for this, albertacowpoke.
at 08:46 on June 19th, 2009
I'm not sure how I feel about this - I think in this day and age, it's really hard to support a family on one salary and while my mum stayed home I'm not sure that now it would be possible to do so. Some areas, especially within the city, are so expensive that both parents need to work, even if one is only part-time, to be able to afford their mortgage and bills.
at 09:38 on June 19th, 2009
I think Iris Evans acknowledges that it is not possible to have one parent home in all cases. She claims her statement was taken out of context.
In Vancouver, in particular, it would be difficult to make it on one income, the price for living in paradise:). There are also many single parents nowadays, the only way they could stay home is either by having a job to work from home or on welfare. There are many consideration that go into this.
at 09:47 on June 19th, 2009
As an overpaid politician (a use of redundant English as all politicians are overpaid), Iris misses the main point here, MONEY. I believe we all agree it's better to have one parent stay at home to raise their children properly, but our economic reality cancels out that possibility for a countless number of Canadians. Lowering our tax burdens by decreasing the salary and retirement benefits of politicians, and doing away with their wasteful spending programs might make this utopian statement a possibilty. I doubt though if that is the hidden message behind Iris Evan's comment.
at 09:54 on June 19th, 2009
Thank you for commenting. Your points are valid.
at 10:34 on June 19th, 2009
The burning question remains: "Was either she or her husband a stay-at-home parent?" Hypocrisy and politics are frequent bedfellows, after all.
at 12:17 on June 19th, 2009
Here is Ms Evans' biography
at 12:06 on June 19th, 2009
To be honest, I think that one parent should be at home, and I think that person is more important than the one out working, because they are in control of raising a whole new generation, and if they don't do it right our world will be negatively affected.
at 12:21 on June 19th, 2009
children need to have an adult around them at all times, a responsible one who is committed long-term. Not a hired person who can be fired and replaced at any time, but a parental figure, be that a grandparent, aunt, mature sibling, mother, father, or owned slave! It's not right to come home after school to an empty house, crying from whatever childish tragedy inflicted itself today, and you're alone with chores and a couple hours before someone gets there. It's not right to be dropped off at an institution when you're still a baby to be cared for by people with no more than monetary interest, even if they're caring people who generally love children. One needs to be valued more personally and directly. One needs to have someone in one's childhood that values one as though precious, even if undeserved.
We shouldn't be defining a family as one male and one female and their offspring, nor stating which adult stays home, but yes, someone should put the children first or use birth control till you can. Properly running a household is a full time job.
at 12:58 on June 19th, 2009
Totally aggee with anarkissed - it's also downright abusive to subject kids to 16 years of schooling (mostly mental distraction), 6 to 8 hours of meaningless school daily with just a few minutes of recess, plus tons of more mind numbing work for home (HW). Some kids do not get a rest and peace of mind from school doing home work until 11pm or later ....
at 13:02 on June 19th, 2009
I appreciate all the great comments and opinions from everyone on this issue. There is a lot of food for thought. Thanks to all that contributed to this story.
at 14:18 on June 19th, 2009
It is an interesting quesiton, but I think for one Iris Evans as a provincial minister should not have raised it.
at 14:27 on June 19th, 2009
Evans spoke to reporters Friday morning while attending an early literacy program, where she was honoured for her commitment to early childhood development. Read more Here
The comments were made in that context. I'm not trying to defend her, but she did not make them in her capacity as Finance Minister.
at 20:17 on July 17th, 2009
I totally agree with Iris Evan, that one parent should stay at home with the children and preferably the Mother. I had seven beautiful children and stayed home when they were real young but went back to work part time as a nurse. If I could do it all over again, i would have stayed home 100% and Home schooled the children.
at 20:18 on July 17th, 2009
Thank you for your thoughtful comments,
at 01:34 on July 18th, 2009
Thanks very much QueensHart for your comments. A good foundation is necessary to move on to the challenges of life.