Reflection on Esther L. Wiggins, Family Court Judge Arlington VA

It has been a long time since I wrote anything about Judge Esther L. Wiggins in Arlington Virginia. This is the woman who single handedly, without remorse, ruined my life and my daughter’s childhood. I am not going to rehash every hateful thing she said, or silly thing she believed. (well, maybe we will indulge just a little) If readers would like to know the background, I will provide a LINK to my previous blog.

Today I am alone with my thoughts, my infant son is sleeping in his crib, and my toddler is out with his wonderful father kicking the ball. I am taking a nice mental vacation, thinking, and reflecting on things.

My daughter is going to be fifteen years old in a couple of days. The last time I saw her she was 7, and unable to speak a word of English. I send her self-addressed stamped envelopes, which she uses to smuggle out hand written letters to me. It warms my heart to read how much she loves me. It breaks my heart, knowing that she misses me terribly. No little girl should ever be taken from her mother like this. I would rather sit in jail for a crime that I did not commit, than to watch helpless as my daughter hurts. That is what Esther Wiggins did. She took away any ability I had to protect my daughter.

I think about the events of August 1999 all the time. I am haunted by those memories. It is impossible for any person to know, or appreciate what it feels like to stand in what is supposed to be a Court of Law, tell the truth, and not be believed. It is the kind of earth shattering shock that I have never been able to overcome. In some sense, I am still in denial that it even happened.  After all of these years I am still at stage one of the grieving processes.

It is hard to understand how a person can be allowed to abandon a child abroad, with two elder women for nearly six years, lie about it, extort thousands of dollars of child support and not experience any consequences for his actions. It is disturbing. It shows that the judicial system does not work, and that sometimes parents must take the law into their own hands. I do not condone vigilantism. But, in situations like mine, vigilantism inevitably ensues.

A long time ago, when I was reading Jane Austin novels, one of the main themes of her book was that the sun shines on the good and the evil. I know that I am not entirely good. Although I strive to be a good person, I am certainly a far better human being that my ex, and Esther Wiggins. The fact is that my ex, and Esther Wiggins most likely will never experience a single consequence for what they did to my daughter and I. I came to accept that truth many years ago.

Along the way I realized several other things. First, that nobody cares, at least, anybody that has the power to help us will not help us, because they do not care. Second, the Courts do not care. Namely, Esther Wiggins does not care. I feel confident that after all the vlogging, blogging, uploading, downloading and exposing, that cruel, immoral heathen knows very well that my ex lied to her. She knows that he maintained elaborate lies in her Court.

I think that she ignores the online content. But, in her arrogance, I think that she performs all sorts of mental gymnastics. She convinced herself that I was dishonest in my testimony – and that the only reason everything I said would happen, happened, is because I am psychic or something. Sometimes arrogance will not allow a person to see the forest for the trees.

Knowing Wiggins, given the opportunity, she would say something like, “Naomi could have come back to the Court at any time, and tell us what the father did to this child!” Knowing her, that is exactly what will come out of her ugly mouth. My response is very simple – we could always publish those audio recordings of my ex telling me she knew he was giving my daughter away, and telling me that she was meeting him at his restaurant. Even though that is reason enough for my refusal to set one foot in a Court I do not consider to be legitimate, there are other things.

“Verbal abuse – it is just a cultural misunderstanding.” How can a person possibly get over something like that? From what planet does Wiggins know that French people all bombard women with vile, sexist and demeaning slurs? The man sent emails telling me he going to have his girlfriend adopt my daughter. He threatened to have me arrested at a hospital when my youngest son was born. He sent letters to my home, impersonating my daughter. In what Universe does Wiggins think this is a ‘cultural norm’?

I am aware that when I was in my early twenties I used poor judgment. Since then, I corrected those mistakes and carefully examined my use of reason. Even so, considering the lapse of judgment I had in my youth – what Esther Wiggins did to my daughter and I is vile, sick, immoral, cruel, demented, and sadistic. Of all the cruel things that man did to us – she refused to say one negative thing about him. Everyone has good and bad qualities. She REFUSED to say a single, solitary negative thing about a man who lied to her for years, abandoned his only child, maintained elaborate lies to cover it up, and did a number of other cruel things to me.

Sometimes I wonder if Esther Wiggins even considers me to be a human being. I think she does not consider me to be a valuable person who has anything positive to contribute to society. There is a sickness in her mind. I do not want to diagnose her, but there are some deep issues she has with mothers and women.

I receive emails from women telling me that she took their children, cut off all contact, and destroyed their lives. Frankly, I do not believe all the women who contact me. I am like a detective; I look for what people are hiding. What does concern me, is that there is a trend of taking children from mothers, and giving them to fathers – especially if those fathers have money. If Dad makes cash, Wiggins is on his side.

If the mother is especially attractive or sexy, she had better make sure that Wiggins does not see that. Wear a burka in that courtroom.

Many women told me that their ex-husbands physically abused them. After reporting the abuse Wiggins gave the fathers custody of the children. Then, Wiggins turns around and tells the mother, “ stop using the domestic violence as an excuse.”

In the letters my daughter sends me, there is evidence that she is verbally abused by her father. When I last saw her, many years ago, she told me that he was cruel to her. In my case, Wiggins said, “verbal abuse does not rise to the level of family domestic violence.”  Holding me down on the floor and spitting on me, urinating on the bed, humiliating me in public, calling me names that I dare not write in this blog knowing that it could be flagged for violating terms of service – does not rise to the level of family domestic violence? As a result – a beautiful little girl has had to live with a monster. A monster that proved that he has the propensity for cruelty. A monster that proved he does not value the feelings of other people. A monster that has the right to do whatever he wants, whenever he wants. If anybody so much as says a thing about it….guess what…. “it is just a cultural misunderstanding.”

It is a fact that when I was young I was very stupid. That is a fact. I learned my lesson. My husband now is wonderful. Every day I wake up thankful, not only to him for being a good person, but thankful that I learned what I needed to learn about making better choices. But I should not have had to learn those lessons this way. My daughter did not deserve to be punished like this.

My thoughts about Esther Wiggins, is that at the end of the day she does not care. She does not care because she has no ability to care. I think that in her perverted mind, she is happy she did what she did to my daughter and me. Her decision to meet my ex at his restaurant, thinking he would not use it to intimidate me is beyond my understanding. What a moron. Opps….thats right….the only reason my ex used those restaurant encounters to intimidate me was because it is a cultural misunderstanding.  

Actually, unlike Wiggins – I lived in France for a year. They most certainly do NOT behave like my ex. They consider him to be a sociopath. But then again, Wiggins would probably just say all those French people are being biased for agreeing with me that this man’s behavior is not cultural. There will always be an excuse with that woman.

I brought a lawsuit against my ex in Washington State. The Courts try to have him served, but he hides from the Marshal and certified letters return unopened. At least I had the courage to stand in Court and tell the truth. I was skinned alive for telling the truth. I lost my daughter for telling the truth. This man does not have the courage to face me in court; he has to hide out like a coward.

I am going to spend the rest of my day hugging and kissing my beautiful boys. Today we had art, and played with their new kitchen set. I teach them colors, letters, and songs. I care for them, love them, and appreciate every moment with them. They are far, far away for Esther Wiggins bony fingers.