Sandra, Don't Leave Jesse — Yet . . .

Most of us would say that we would leave our spouse if we discovered serial cheating, and a Nazi performance to boot.  But if it really happened to us, in the quiet of our life, what would we really do?  Nobody knows until they're faced with that challenge.

People like Sandra Bullock, give up the quiet of their lives, in exchange for a career they love, and the fame and fortune that comes with it.  Consequently, when trouble happens in their lives, they have to confront it, with the whole world looking on. 

There must be a lot of pressure to do something, when the media is breathing down your back, and the intimate secrets of your life, which you've jealously guarded, have become a topic of discussion, for everyone —  The pressure must be excruciating.  Nevertheless, Sandra owes it to herself to wait long enough to really, really know, that when she sign on the dotted line of a document entitled divorce, it will be her idea alone, and not the idea of zebra girl.

Zebra girl probably thought she'd accomplished something when she got Sandra Bullock's husband in the sack, but when she saw the happy couple during the award season, Sandra glammed up, in designer gowns, on Jesse's arm; basking in the admiration of the admired, she recognized the difference between a wife, and a booty call.

Zebra girl could not climb up to where Sandra is, but she tried to bring Sandra down a peg, by letting the world know she slept with Sandra's husband.  Misery likes company.

Zebra girl didn't talk too much about the state of her arrangement with Jesse.  But enough was said to make it known that she couldn't get him to take her for a ride on his motorcycle, there was no exchange of money, and she wasn't enough of a confidant, to be told that he had a new baby at home.  It doesn't appear that there was any personal intimacy between Jesse and zebra girl.  She was strictly office couch material.

Quiet as it is kept, some men think that marital fidelity means, don't embarrass your wife.  Clearly Jesse failed miserably at that, but in his world, before Tiger Woods, the media did not provide a platform for, wannabe wife replacements, to mouth their sexual escapades with the rich and famous husbands, of other women.

Sandra knew Jesse was a wild child, but she thought you had him tamed.  My best guess is that he was at a point where he wanted to be tamed, but the habits of a life time are hard to break.  But now, he's got the biggest motivator of all, he doesn't want to loose her.

Sandra should trust her judgment.  She's had a lifetime in Hollywood, without so much as a hint of scandal.  So even though she might not have known Jesse's propensity for sex, she should trust what she saw in him, that caused her to let him into your life.  And, she should trust her experience of happiness with him.  I think Sandra has the ability to discern if Jesse can become a faithful husband and, even if he can, she also has to figure out if she is capable of the level of forgiveness required, to go forward in her marriage.  I'm sure that Sandra will sort it all out, in time.

Jesse's children, and Sandra's new son, Louis Bardo Bullock, need her singular attention to this issue, before she reconstructs the course of their lives.

Sandra and Jesse have entered into a status which the bible describes as a merger that result in one entity.  Marriage is a union supported by God, the State, family, friends and the community. Sandra should not let a virulent media, a zebra girl, or public opinion, cause her to be reactive.

In the face of Jesse's behavior, even God authorizes a divorce, if Sandra want one.  But the critical issue here is, does she want one.  Sandra should give herself the time, and the space, to answer this question:  should she leave a marriage that made her happy, because it now requires serious work?  The answer should come from the depths of her soul.  Sandra Bullock, not zebra girl, should define the end of this marriage.