Torry Hansen On Artyom Savelyev: Boy Threatened To Burn The House

There's 2 sides to every story.  What would you do if you adopted a child who threatened to murder you and therest of your family?  A 7 year old is quite capable of turning on a stove, molesting light sockets, and using a knife.  Tory Hansen is better than most selfish americans because she at least tried to help others.That;'smore than all you savage commenters will ever do in a lifetime for a stranger.

There isn't always a second side to a story. Sometimes evil is simply evil. Was the boy difficult - well who can say? But there are plenty of people with natural born children who find that managing their child's behavioral problems is a full time job. But do they march their natural children onto planes, unaccompanied, and fire them off to a faraway land with no real care as to whether they get there alright? I think we all know that nothing like this ever happens.Being a parent means standing up and taking on the responsibility for a dependent's life. It is what it is - if you don't want the job, then don't stand up and take the job. Kids are not iPods, and you can't return them at the store.

Alcohol use is rampant among Russians and this woman's account of Artyom Savelyev's behavior sounds like a textbook case of fetal alcohol syndrome. According to statistics, 3/4 of all children in the Russian childcare system were parented by severe alcoholics. I would give the adopted mother the benefit of the doubt on this one. Russia should be held accountable for dumping these damaged children on good intentioned adoptive parents from other countries.

Bill Maher put it best:"She should be a role model. The kid was a terror and more americans need to do what she did, if something isnt working out to cut your losses and send it back before things get worse."If the kid did what they said he did, and wasn't showing any signs of improvement with any of the efforts i made to calm him down, his ass would be put on the plane just as she did.

Why was this Russian child allowed to be adopted by a Southern, presumably Protestant, American family to begin with?  Were cultural differences at play in this?  Did this American "mother" show affection for Artyom, or was she a strict disciplinarian? What a sick lady.  It's probably for the best, that Artyom is back with his own kind, and away from the dysfunction and emotional distance that defines American "families." 

I also think it all for the best if Russian adptions are halted. I wanted to adopt a child in Connecticut that would not otherwise find a home. At the time I thought I was sharing the gifts of love and family that all children deserve. We were not allowed to adopt children of color at the time because NAACP did not want caucasian families raising biracial children. We were sent pictures of Russian boys needing homes. The Russians are well aware of these children's pyschotic backgrounds and that is why Russians won't adopt them. If  the boy had not been to the US and returned I guarantee no one would have ever cared that he ended up a prostitute drinking vodka and shoting heroin. Homeless children roam the streets and subways of Moscow. I watched it. The orphanages are holding tanks. I was there. I have spent years trying to help my sons. This mother did what she had to do and at least the boy is not in our over crowded horrific foster care system. How about if we talk about the birth mothers? What the hell are they doing. I our own country too. Let's start with birth control for alcoholics and drug addicts and people who don't want their kids. CONTRACEPTION PEOPLE. Wake up.

There should be a halt to all international adoptions until we begin to address our own foster care night mare. These children are scarred. many are very violent. Most communities do not have the resources or training to deal with their issues. Love from birth and prenatal care is the only way to ensure even a chance at a well adjusted life. My Russian children will never live without depression and anger. It is now in their brain's wiring. They are improving after years of costly services that are out of reach to most people. Tory Ann Hansen cannot be judged. I don't know her experience but if it was like mine, she did both she and the child a favor.

Tory Hansen had the ultimate nightmare adoption experience. I have a daughter with Reactive Attachment  Disorder and  I would have given an arm and a leg to have someone believe me when I told them about what were were going through.It is shocking, surreal, and there is actual  fear of these children because they mean what they say they will do.We love our daughter very much, and I believe she loved this little boy, but she was right to do something immediately to keep her family safe. It was not the best decision, but no one is dead . People need to realize she acted out of real fear. It is a sad story for the both of them.

I am sure there have been parents who have been so frustrated with their biological children that they wished they could have sent them away! But when they are your biological kids, you are stuck with them. In this case, the boy was adopted, and the lady had a place to send him back. My guess is that she had reached the end of her rope, and put him on the airplane without seeking permission, because she would never have gotten approval. If she had not done what she did and the boy did something drastic, then these same critical people would have cursed her then for not preempting it.........

First of all of if you have a child with problems I'm sure that you have someone to talk with and ou have to find a help and try to see what is the problem. Didn't she had any assistance from the adoption agency? They don't have any support group for this kind of situations? Why she didn't call the agency and told them what was the problem ? And send a 7 years old child alone in a plain? You can be very desperate but you must be a cold heart person to do something like that. And yes children are not disposable things, they are not tissues to use and trough away.