Victim of Organized Domestic Stalking & Electronic Harassment
I am a victim of stalking and electronic harassment in Louisville, KY. I have been gathering evidence as I go along but cannot believe how much this is actually tolerated, and how many victims there really are worldwide. I have managed to make a decent living for myself and am slowly proceeding with caution in my every day life and future business goals. Some of the community at large do not even realize this is even going on, and it is blatantly obvious to others.
Nevertheless, there is not any reason for these attacks on my life- I am a 40-year old single hard-working American woman with a fiance that has just recently become a US Citizen we are trying to plan for the future. My family descent is Pennsylvania Duetsch and Scottish. I was raised by my mother and step-father, a Vietnam Veteran.
With these attacks becoming more and more frequent - I am never going to feel comfortable enough to establish anything permanently at my present location (especially concerning having children and expanding my business). Over the years I have been gathering data and demographics from different areas searching for locations that may be safer to proceed, but was also electronically harassed during the last city visited.
Electronic harassment started just over 2 years ago at various places that I have been doing freelance work, in public and sometimes in my home. This is very interesting to me - because these attacks have been happening on a daily basis and the timing is relevant for the simple fact that I am working more on an individual basis instead of in a group environment.
Some harassment tactics used over the years are the following:
-auto tampering and vandalism
-harassment in public
-gas-lighting - blatantly insulting your intelligence to make it seem as if you are acting strangely (make sure that you gather facts & state only facts & try not to feed into this behavior- if something were "strange" it isn't really making sense to deliberately make you feel worse?)
-bright lights flashed on and off repeatedly when out in public & in front of my home from individuals that I am definitely not familiar with
-squealing tires and honking
-swerving of other cars around me while in traffic to attempt to cause an accident (appropriately resembling a "shell game")
-unprovoked blatant contrast of treatment (extremely rude to you, and extremely cordial to others) for no apparent reason when you do not really know the individuals involved
-random and unusually loud “out of place” conversation next to only you in public to attempt to alienate, humiliate or intimidate you
-smear campaigns to keep a "looming suspicion of some sort
-feedback from ridiculous rumors that are sometimes conflicting with each other
-workplace mobbing - sudden and deliberate unexplained hostility at work resulting in inability to emotionally handle your job and eventually having to change jobs frequently
-sudden public hostility from strangers; random electrical items or tools not working (things that have not been used very much or are not that old)
-suddenly being treated rudely, pushed and crowded on purpose when attending public events such as concerts when no one else is being bothered in the crowd
-unusual undeserved “attention” from random strangers than anyone else in public - when you are not drawing any attention to yourself on purpose
-not receiving your email, phone calls or mail in the volumes that you would normally receive them
-hostile responses from others when refusing to answer certain personal questions especially concerning religion, political affiliation, your bills, income, sex life or personal life. (The flow of information is apparently not getting to the proper “channels”).
Oftentimes when I reflect on the extreme spectrum of the rumors I find myself laughing because none of them even make any sense when compared with each other or fit within my personality or mindset, personal boundaries, or lifestyle at all.
Alienation is only a state of mind. To the frustration of the stalkers, I am capable of interacting with and understanding most people (within reason) quite effectively. As most adults should be capable of doing at this stage in life.
One psychological tactic to watch out for is while experiencing life changes or hardships, especially a death in the family, there will be emotional vultures that pick apart details of your emotional “status” looking for a permanent mental disorder of some kind just because you are upset about a normal temporary life hardship (a weak point) Even when you are only experiencing everyday stress that comes and goes they will suddenly become more judgmental instead of supportive as if they are “goose-stepping” around you to make you uncomfortable instead of actually giving you the support that would normally be needed when in a weakened emotional state. These stalkers will sometimes then proceed to go as far as to spread rumors that you are on the “verge of a nervous breakdown” (A true pillar of support in times of need…?).
My approach to this tactic is to make it clear that I do NOT NEED - OR appreciate people making things WORSE when I am in certain situations or under heavy emotional stress. It does not make sense to make situations worse on purpose, and noone has to tolerate it.
I cannot ascertain as to what the possible reasons clearly are for these attacks- targeting for sport (sociopath), some type of hidden agenda, for control or intimidation (imagined entitlement), because they do not feel that you "deserve" certain things (as if they are GOD and have the right to choose who deserves free choice and free will), because you may not belong to their organized group, to discredit for some reason, rejection and not having fulfillment or direction in their own lives, religious reasons or the lack thereof, obsession or jealousy of anything positive that you have in your life.
Stalking is an attack on Human Life. Some Targets walk around feeling as if they may have done something wrong somehow - and they haven't, feeling as if they do not "measure up" to some unrealistic standard (there is ALWAYS going to be better, worse than you & in-between and it should NOT STOP you from doing your BEST), and in extreme cases - unworthy of life for no realistic reason. Even a handicapped person lives a full life if they care about their lives & are motivated to be independent.
The direction should always be - evolve, better, healthy, reciprocal (in all that you care about in life), self-sufficient, capable, & independent. There is never a reason to choose self destruction. What would be the difference either way? Why so important?
Stalkers apparently receive enjoyment at the expense of others keeping a sick form of attachment, but not really enjoying it when the tables are turned. Suddenly, it just isn't "fair"? Never maturing as in high school "bullying".
When someone crosses your personal boundaries with no regard to your well-being - this is as if to say that their life apparently is not satisfying enough to have the discipline to realize that others also have their own life & set of values going on. For some reason this person's life, their accomplishments and things they have occupying them may not be satisfying enough.
REALITY CHECK: the only things an individual is ENTITLED to in this World are their OWN LIFE, what is accomplished in their OWN lifetime & what is earned in their OWN lifetime. Someone ELSE may or may not acknowledge this but this is all that someone ELSE can DO. No one owes anyone ELSE anything or is OBLIGATED to SACRIFICE from their lives - they can only support & share with others. Partnerships and sharing are important elements in human involvement.
What Would JESUS DO? Jesus would make everyone accountable for their lives & what they earn and encourage sharing. This doesn't mean that things float to you whilest sitting in a Lotus position - it means making an effort toward a direction in your own life, taking responsibility & playing your own active roles in (cultivating, nurturing and maintaining) everything IN your own life. Guilt serves no purpose in this cycle.
When someone needs help, they need to appreciate it and ASK for help. When people APPRECIATE help and actually are humble enough to ASK most people are happy to help, but when someone is helping you the "help" should be - helping YOU help yourself along your way. And they may need you to appreciate it ENOUGH to allow them to ask for YOUR support some day.
If you are not even motivated to HELP someone help you solve your own problem, how can anyone else feel motivated FOR you?
No one is obligated to provide LIFE SUPPORT, or obligated to let someone suck the life OUT of them. They are also not obligated to be taken advantage of or to have to disrupt their OWN lives or lifestyle to accommodate someone else that is pressuring them deliberately without regard to what it is putting someone else through or caring about their well-being.
Pressuring someone, or putting unrealistically false expectations on someone else is not normal when there are resources available & professional help for someone unable to live their lives as normal. Someone that isn't capable of appreciating you is not going to benefit from any "involvement".
Stalking could be an addiction that happens over time with true sociopaths that are not capable of having remorse for their actions in any way. It is the only way that stalker(s) can maintain a sick attachment when a real relationship and emotional bonding are not possible as in normal adult relationships. Stalking & Harassment are elements that are apart of a sick fascination and preoccupation that isn’t going to go away unless you continuously take deliberate action and apply logic to your everyday life.
It is a blatant violation of Human Rights, Civil Liberties, and a growing disease in society - an attack on manhood and womanhood.
Awareness is the most important thing that you have. Each of these individual harassment methods attempted, in and of themselves, can appear to be immature but when saturated and combined with other instances it constitutes nothing more than Domestic Terrorism. These "methods" used to "control" are not new- they are common among victims that have been stalked by organized stalkers for decades. Instances of electronic, electromagnetic, and microwave weapons seem to be emerging as new and more deadly forms of harassment and surveillance.
I plan to become creatively and actively involved in creating change in everything that I do and in everything that I am concerned. I also plan to continue my research and gather facts and as much evidence as possible, contact stalking advocates and reach out to other victims.
Without facts and evidence it is easier to be dismissed as being a "trouble-maker", or schizophrenic and you are discredited.
Organized stalkers do not want you to have credibility or to be exposed directly and, for the most part, usually target individuals that appear weaker in some way.
Women seem to be targeted more than men. Especially if they are trying to gain any level of independence. Every Citizen has the Right to be a fully capable, contributing, functional, independent living human being.
This parasitic social epidemic is disabling, handicapping & paralyzing capable functioning individuals just for the sake of a sick obsession.
Becoming aware, careful and gathering evidence every single day is a necessary lifestyle change in order to stay alive. Safeguard your health by limiting stress and resting a much as needed.
Every human being, every person deserves to be healthy, safe & happy. You are not RESPONSIBLE for another person's happiness, what they look or feel like or WHAT THEY EARN. If someone shares with you it is only then that you can offer support.
No one else knows how you feel or can tell you how to feel. You know what you WANT & NEED - everyone should know what is best for themselves personally. There isn't anything that can replace this "knowing" that we are all responsible for in ourselves initially. This is what needs to be communicated to those that we ARE involved with.
It is not normal to think it is "Normal" for an ADULT to just walk around living in fear, fearing communication with other adults (communication is expected and necessary), expecting others to be psychic, approval seeking, expected to allow others to take advantage of them and/ or put themselves at risk, seeking permission to live their lives, set personal preferences & make decisions for your own well-being (freedom of choice), and enjoy your own personal freedoms (without victimizing the personal freedoms of others), needing prepubescent acceptance or unconditional love from others (understanding and mutual respect are first before relationships can even happen), feeling irrational guilt or burdens that don't even BELONG to them (be responsible for what YOU are RESPONSIBLE for - and support others that need support in what THEY are responsible for & know the DIFFERENCE). This is what we were supposed to be prepared for as young adults from our parents.
EVERY MATURE ADULT SHOULD BE CAPABLE OF LIVING AN INDEPENDENT LIFE IN LIEU OF THE LIFE EVERYONE ELSE LIVES, COME TO AN UNDERSTANDING WITH OTHERS & SHARE/RECIPROCATE OF YOUR OWN FREE WILL.
Sharing & Support "should" be all that is needed for good partnerships in all things.
*Someone that isn't genuinely interested in you as a person or even cares about your well-being should not be deliberately wasting a great deal of your time. This is suspicious.
A normal rational-minded adult should never need (especially in a desperate manner) another human being to validate their own sense of self. There is never a reason for someone to pull someone "in" on their own life to define them. No one should need this as a crutch to hold up your self esteem or image, to validate what you "look like" or who you are or how you FEEL inside that you are not willing to accept responsibility for.
Without this "crutch" to refer to - you are nothing, in other words? Meanwhile, this unsuspecting person really has no idea - they are not psychic!
No one "likes" everyone. We are all trying to co-exist. We are all trying to "get along". There is no "all things to all people", there is no chameleon to change to make someone else feel comfortable. What IS possible is to communicate and find common ground - realize and accept the level of involvement possible between other adults. Acknowledge others first as other human beings (when possible), as citizens (when possible) and with understanding and familiarity you can build comfort & trust. There is no fast track.
When there is an uncomfortable sense of urgency in "knowing" you that should send you a signal (Where's the fire?). It isn't necessary to respond to someone else's false sense of expectation & entitlement before you even determine where you stand, establish trust & a comfort level, and see & feel how much you actually DO care (in other words "get to know" someone). That is not normal & it isn't your problem. They don't care either. It could be a good target for YOU to vent some frustration actually and draw attention to this very thing.
Appreciate TOLERANCE because it works both ways just as everything in human nature.
Adulthood is for - Taking Responsibility in life & what you care about (solving your own problems & dealing with your own "issues") Communication, Networking & Strengthening REAL RELATIONSHIPS, Direction in your own life (making your way-your living instead of expecting others to take care of you).
There is no real reason for there to be any unrealistic pressure between mature adults that are capable of communication and understanding without insulting someone's intelligence.
When someone WANTS and NEEDS ADVICE or HELP they will ASK for it - Putting your personal "demands" on another adult not only "looks" ridiculous it is definitely a control issue crossing the line. This is what YOUR life is for - not what the lives of OTHERS. Unfortunately, you can only come to an understanding with another person's life. If someone does not share their independent life they make that choice to alienate themselves. It only hurts that person.
Adults usually communicate freely. It just is not possible to EXPECT to like or love everyone you encounter before even knowing & caring about them first.
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